Wife freaks out over everything, then flips it on me

27m 27f here, 3 yr marriage:

My wife can't have a rational discussion with me and I'm worried it will never change. I used to think she would grow up eventually but she hasn't.

For example, today she asked me to do something and I agreed. Then she kept adding more and more tasks until I put my foot down and said enough is enough.

She freaked out and started bawling and screaming at me saying "I didn't love her" and that I "never do anything for her". Both are bullshit. I just said "whoa, no need to go crazy. If it's that important to you I'll do it."

Now she's accusing me of being emotionally abusive by calling her names (Crazy). She's even threatened moving out.

My problem isn't with the asking to do things. This is every argument or discussion we ever have. If I don't agree, she flips out and then turns it into me attacking her. It's very frustrating and I'm at a loss. Talking to buddies about it and all I get is the "wow bud, that sucks. Don't know what to tell ya." I really love this girl but I don't know if I can handle the meltdowns anymore. Once in a while is ok, because lets be honest, everyone has them, but every time there is a disagreement? Is that normal.

Help!! :)

TLDR: She flips out whenever we argue. I don;t know how to handle it/