If a woman has multiple children with different men what are those men's responsibility to feed and provide for the other men's children? If any?
Posted Jun 28, 2022, 8:56 PM UTC
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the world is very stupid in some countries you can be forced to pay child support for someone else's child if you dated her long enough to recognize it as a civil marriage
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Once you've been with someone long enough (and become a family) those children cease to be "someone else's" and become yours
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you didn’t marry this woman, you wanted to get divorced, and let’s say you didn’t have much contact with the child and didn’t want to raise him especially, you even warned this girl that this was her child. and then she will file alimony for you and the court will not care, the court will just say you lived a long time and the child perceives it as a father, or let's look at the other side, let's say you put your whole soul into this child, you loved him, he was your own, but then mom the child leaves you and leaves you with another person, and now you can’t contact or demand from the mother, perhaps you see or guardianship of him, because according to the court, now you are a stranger for this child
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Zero
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It depends on marital status and various state laws.
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I think in family court system and state statutes, orders in terms of child support would be individual parents and kids paired to, not entire family level. So, how is that men providing for other men’s children in your view?
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It isnt... that's why i didn't mention family court. I was thinking specifically of a solution I've seen making the rounds where a dad buys his son food every day but not his son's 3 siblings who have a different father. The mom recorded herself 'exposing him a bad father'
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That’s sort of a difficult question that isn’t so easy to put into neat boxes. I would say that this person the father of one kid is a horrible human being because the kid’s siblings are going without and in plain view of this situation. In parsing of language and objective aspects, is he a horrible father to kids who aren’t his kids? He’s providing to his kid. So, technically that’s true but he’s also putting his kid through a bunch of emotional stuff in this, that is not fair to kiddo and is damaging. Mom in this is not without a role or blame in this, she needs to pursue the other fathers and work this out.
Anywho, I think there’s a role here in ethics and parenting that rigidity in not providing beyond single kid is shortsighted and shitty.
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I agree on all counts. No adult is in the right in this situation.
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I believe they would only be required to pay child support based on their biological offspring. So if she has 3 kids by 3 men then each man has to pay her the appropriate support for 1 kid.
Edit: obviously if one of the men is her current partner there would probably be a social expectation for him to provide for the stepchildren, if not a legal one.
Most definitely. I recently saw a video of a woman 'exposing' one of her children's father as not a good dad (she stated people call him a good father) because he brought food every day for his son but not his sons 3 siblings who have a different father/fathers. This got me thinking about the issue.
Regardless of what his responsibilities are that's really disgusting behavior on his part.
I disagree, wouldn't the other fathers have to do that? His only obligation is to his kid.
I didn't say he should bring food for the other kids. Bringing food to his own kid every day, presumably in front of the other kids, is a shitty thing to do.
I don't understand why. Feeding 4 kids every day is expensive. Given that she didn't say 'they are buying food for your son why wouldn't you by it for their's' I'm assuming that's not happening.