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halfStackScratchDev

How do I (29M) find balance with my very extroverted GF (30F)?

I’m not introverted but I only go out for drinks and dinner and whatnot like 2-3 times a week at most.

My GF is very extroverted. She sets up hangouts and gets invited to events pretty much every day.

For the last 7 days it has been something daily. I fit one date night one-on-one with her. Otherwise from last Tuesday until tomorrow it’s something every single day. Either she’s hanging with friends or going to a concert or going out. Now often she invites me and I usually like to go, but I’m starting to feel increasingly drained.

Now my issue isn’t really in the present but a concern about the future.

I kind of want that nice homey family where we have family dinners and enjoy each other’s company and occasionally go hangout with our respective friends.

But right now it feels so fast paced that I’m starting to get worn down.

We’ve talked about some of this stuff but I’m curious to see how other redditors have made this dynamic work.

TL;DR - girlfriend is very extroverted. Almost daily activities planned with no desire to rest. I’m wishing she would enjoy being at home more. Can a balance be struck or is it doomed to fail?

Posted Jul 25, 2022, 9:24 PM UTC

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Exciting-Company8899•

It doesn't work. You are ready to settle down and she wants the party life.

If you want children (and not a cat) she is already close to the end point to have children but doesn't seem to want children. I think you need to ask her if she wants to have children with you because at this point, she needs to end the party girl lifestyle and start acting like wife material.

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halfStackScratchDevOP•

Sigh.. you might be right…

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Exciting-Company8899•

So sorry, but you need to google "Chance of birth defects by age"

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halfStackScratchDevOP•

This isn’t my primary concern. We have several years for children if that’s our desire.

Right now I’m just wondering if she’ll be able to settle down and meet somewhere in the middle on things. She knows my positions which I shared early in our dating. So if she decides she doesn’t want kids or she tries to postpone until it’s no longer tenable then I’ll leave.

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