Fuck this, this is pointless

You do you mate. I can sympathise with people not putting in the same effort to socialise with you as you're giving out.

If you feel gaming's the answer to your problems, then go for it. It's okay to take time for yourself once in a while. Constant socialising can be draining.

No-one's going to physically force you to keep doing this if you don't want to. I hope you just try and look out for yourself and at least keep hygiene in check for your own sake.

We're not here to be better than you - we're here to better ourselves and overcome our addiction. Your circumstances are different to mine, and vice versa. Some of us just want out and need that little extra push to get there.

When it comes to the whole "holier than thou" thing, that's just how social media like reddit tends to be (as well as some real life people). Sometimes you just have to blot those kinds of people out, and focus on the positive ones. Best of luck in your future endeavours.

Imagine going in a AA and saying you're getting drunk and no one's better than you for staying sober. Lol

I 100% get you. I've quit gaming easily but I absolutely need some kind of human background noise. Whether it's music or Twitch or Youtube. There is just a social void in my life that needs to be filled. I don't know how people can say "go hang out with friends" that's so privileged man. People have lives. Just go outside they say. There's absolutely nothing outside but bums and shit. I can't find a solution for this shit.

This world is not some magical place where you simply go outside and you magically start talking to people. They will not trust you. Sad thing is, social lives are a privilege and people don't want to accept that. They think reading books on charisma and talking to people is going to fix shit.

Don't even get me started on the talk to people with your hobbies, because I USED TO, BUT GUESS WHAT. I HAD TO GIVE UP THOSE HOBBIES. NEWFLASH !!! 99% OF THE WORLD'S HOBBY IS WATCHING NETFLIX AND PLAYING VIDEOGAMES

Honestly this is a pathetic post.

The irony is that you really don't realize that what you think is saving you from boredom, and making you not feel lonely and helping you to escape, is exactly the thing that is causing your loneliness.

Basically you've given up on your self at the first sign of discomfort. I've been going through some shitty discomfort for one month now, shit's not supposed to be easy, but I'm doing it because I want to make my life better, and I'm in my 40s too! And I have no doubt that I will get everything I want including financial freedom.

You've given up on yourself, it's a shame, for something that will give you absolutely nothing at all and that will take so much from you.

I hope you wake up eventually.

Goodluck.

Nobody’s saying they’re better than you. They’re saying they like themselves better when they’re off games. It’s got nothing to do with you. It’s “self help”. I’m making my own life better. I’m not shitting on your life.

Sorry you’re having trouble connecting with people. Besides the usual “join clubs, volunteer to help others” I don’t know what to say?

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i think for most people, myself included, stopping to game isn't really the end goal. There are plenty of ways to enrich your life without having to quit games. It's just for some people, it's one of the bigger obstacles. If you feel quitting games isn't necessary to improve your life, that's perfectly fine and you should totally look into what you feel could do that for you.

I understand the frustration but think it's a little rude to barge in and piss on people who are just trying to better themselves. Most people here that I've seen are extremely self-depreciating anyway

i been saying this man. This sub sell people a dream that if you quit gaming or anything gaming related your life is instantly gonna get better whether you are addicted or not.

No one realizes gaming isn't the problem itself. Its their lack of self control and just straight up laziness. They just fill in the void of laziness with gaming.

Trust me if gaming disappeared to day everyone who was addicted will still be in the same place they are today. They would just find something else to get addicted to.

Quitting gaming isn't some magic pill where as soon as you quit for some time your life automatically improves. Quitting gaming ITSELF doesn't really provide any benefits to improve your life except you have more time and energy to do things because you aint just gaming all day like you was when you were addicted. You still have to get up and do things that can improve your life.

If you quit gaming and then sit around all day at home doing mindless things then your life aint gonna improve. You have to go out in the real world and start doing things to improve your life.

King, start hitting the gym, NOW

Hey man. Please realize life is not a competition. You only compete with yourself. Maybe why socializing doesn't work for you is because you are always giving the vibe that you think people are better than you so you become negative in your words, tone and body language. Instead of 'giving up on life ' - work on yourself and your goals to prove yourself you can get better than your previous version.

Currently it sounds you have given up on that and on any goal in life basically by saying 'see you when we are all old'.

I share none of your conclusions but I share your pain. Whatever you do, good luck. Try to at least stay minimally healthy, so that if ever "Future You" wants to starts being active again, you'll have that opportunity without too much of a hassle.

It’s not about being better than others my man, it’s about how it makes you feel.

Do you man, for me playing games was used as a coping mechanism for others it's the only thing that stimulates them.

Saying that you don’t have any other options is pure arrogance. Stop the self pity and take responsibility like an adult.