[29M] Is My Wife [25F] a shit bag? reddit, help me see clearly.

Fuck a throwaway, this is my real handle. I don't have anything else to lose...

So, I'll attempt to write this in as little information as possible:

I met my wife when I was 25. We've been married for going on 3 years now. When we were first dating, she set up a fake facebook with a fake girl to try and talk to me to "see what i'd do" - I'd later find out that it was to test me. I ended up telling the girl that my newly acquired girlfriend and I liked to visit X spots, never made any attempts to talk to this "fake" woman, but I'll accept that as my strike one and strike one for her

At the time I thought it wasn't that big of a deal and life went on. Fast forward to my 27th birthday, so a year or so ahead. My wife used to model heavily and ended up sleeping with her photographer. He was much older than her, she had/has parental issues, etc. Only days after my 27th birthday she messaged the guy and initiated a conversation which she later tried to pass off as "He messaged me first!" I found the originating message from her to him, which confirmed the flow of email which she later confirmed. At the time of this happening, I was unemployed, out of school - basically a shit bag. After her and photographer got to talking, she ended up sleeping with him. She basically coerced me into participating in a threesome with this guy, which was basically her and him. At this point in time, I didn't feel as if I deserved any better. She was gold in my eyes, she was supporting me financially so I figured this was OK (Obviously with hindsight, this was WRONG)

After this event, some time passed and lots of fighting. Eventually I attempted to forgive her and time went on. We moved into a new place together and attempted to work things out. I started attending school and got a work from home job. During this time of me working at home, we started playing World of Warcraft because we were mostly poor due to high living costs of having our own place. There was a moment in this time period where I thought I was happy. Met some friends in this game and eventually one of them started heavily pursuing her. I told him to back off and he didn't give two shits obviously. She loved the attention and it continued. He had even purchased a plane ticket to come visit her. I convinced her finally that we should work it out, but we fought, heavily. She would say the nastiest and meanest things during this time, and I was honestly just taking it all in and attempting to repair everything. The result of this event led us to the end of our lease and a decision to make. We decided it would be best to go our own ways. However, what ended up happening is that we moved up north a few states and decided to "start over". I have to throw in that up to this point, this woman has belittled me to no end and I have taken it all in without fighting. This is from Day 1. It is obvious that I probably did not have the greatest self esteem.

I attempted to give this one last shot. Shit with my family wasn't all that great, so I decided, why not? We arrived up north a few states and I kept working my stay at home job. For a while, life was good. Her dad lived up here and everything seemed to go fine. There were a few fights that led to me being away from my work at home job, and eventually that led to my firing. Shortly after that, her dad passed suddenly and all went to hell. We spent the next few months mending and attempting to pick ourselves up.

I was on the verge of heading back home with my shit family when I suddenly I got a response from a possible job. I ended up landing the job of my dreams! I was so happy and ecstatic. She was not, she thought this would lead to the portal of my new found happiness and cheating on her (I know, right?). So fast forward to today. I get a text from her telling me how wonderful she thinks I am today, and I guess my response didn't illicit what she desired. I responded with "aww honey, thank you! I love you" - no shit, I have this saved. She proceeded to go on this rant about how much I dont care, blah blah blah.

I lost it. I went off on every possible word in the dictionary. She repeatedly talks to men on facebook and I've been too stupid up until this day to install a keylogger or anything of that sort on her machine. I was able to hop on her facebook from my computer because she had logged in and found tons of neat information, such as: -Pretending she's single on facebook -Talking to old friends whom she has a history of flirting with -Newly acquired "friends" who she has stated is only friendly with, but emails prove otherwise -Her history displayed a lot of messages being deleted at 5:05 pm. I asked her about it and she said she didnt want to fight further, so she deleted messages from not one, but 7 different men. The contents are still unknown.

As I type, I am in our bedroom on my laptop and she is in a different room. reddit, there is SO much more about this relationship that I am leaving out, but it amounts to basically a whole lot more fighting. I understand that this is one side of the story, but I have countless gChat conversations, emails, texts, screen shots, etc that I can submit for further proof. I can also verify if needed. I am so sorry if this is so lengthy, but I had to get it all off of my chest. To further clarify, she is BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and was in the military (nothing serious) Please, help!