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_Merry

My laparoscopic bilateral salpingectomy experience.

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Hello. I am a 27 year old woman with no children. I'm 230lb at a BMI of 38.

In February I had a well woman's visit with a clinic doctor. I needed to remove my IUD before November. When I asked for my next options, she notes surgery being an option for me. I was so excited. I've always wanted a permanent birth control. I do not want to ever have children. Especially not out of my body.

We set a consultation with a surgeon. I asked all my concerns and she was very positive that I was a perfect candidate with no foreseen issues.

On July 25th I was scheduled to arrive at the hospital at 9:30. No solid food after 10pm 7/24. No liquids after 8:30 7/25.

There was a registration area that double checked that everyone was being paid. I received a call a few days earlier that handled all the information needed for registration so that only took 5 minutes. Got checked in upstairs to the surgery area before 10 am. Then, I was taken to a prep room, accompanied by my husband, about 10 minutes later.

I changed into a backless gown, slip resistant socks, and a hair net. Lied down in bed and was first verified of my identity and asked to verify I knew what procedure was happening today. We are removing my Paragaurd IUD, and performing a laparoscopic bilateral salpingectomy. I was told to re-sign the original permission documents for the surgery that were originally signed during my consultation in February. Many people visited my bedside, including my anesthesiologist, my surgeon, and many other assistants. We made small jokes about how popular this procedure is. The nurse even joked we should 'hurry while this procedure is still legal' My surgeon asked me directly, "Do you have any doubts or regrets about what we are doing today?" I said I am confident in my choice. I signed many documents regarding permission to be given anesthesia, and given permission to the people specifically touching me during surgery. At this point, I am anxious to get started but everyone has made me very informed and as comfortable as possible.

It's about 11/11:30am as they are inserting my IV and adding a blood pressure monitor, an oxygen monitor, and these inflatable leg cuffs that prevent blood clots. And give me a stomach injection, also to prevent blood clots. Some time after 12pm, I am being wheeled to the operation room. I am asked my name and to verify the type of procedure I'm expecting. I glance around at a bunch of fancy equipment. I was given a breathing mask and that is the last thing I remember until I woke up.

I woke up to a nurse feeding me ice and assessing my pain levels. I didn't know how incredible crewing ice is. It's exactly what I needed because I was desperately thirsty, and my throat was coarse. I'm thanking the person, and asking if the surgery happened already. I asked how much time had passed. She said everything went well. I was textbook candidate for the procedure. She said I have very good ovaries. And then goes on to say, "lots of women regret not freezing their eggs before doing something so permanent" and I don't really remember my response. Something about "permanent being my intention. Adoption is an option for those people with regrets" all I know is I was ready to leave her specific care. T

Back in a more private room. My husband is back with me. They are assessing my pain levels as a truly wake up. I am feeling more uncomfortable. Specifically I feel like I have to pee but not badly. Just the sensation is prominent. They tell me I had a catheter in and it will leave me a little uncomfortable. The surgery site wasn't very uncomfortable. Just tender to the touch. They give me some IV pain meds and tell me to chill for a while. It was odd that my blood pressure was higher then ideal for a bit but it started calming down after 20 min.

They told me I was doing great. I should get dressed and go home. I am able to walk but of course they roll me to the car. I make it up the stairs to my 3rd story apartment. I have been alternating video games and laying down. I am able to walk around with no problem. For the first few days it was very slow getting up from a laying position, and I was only comfortable in some angles. The cuts themselves are glued together with some clear second skin. There are 2 slices on my tummy, and one inside my belly button that I can't really tell is there, it's very deep. The surgery sites have developed a bruise within the first day. And has been slowly calming down. The incision sites themselves are still only tender to the touch. Not really bothersome in most positions. I have some bleeding due to the removal of the IUD. It was light spotting. Then a light flow. Now is not present today. It's a bit uncomfortable to laugh, cough, sneeze, or poop if it's intense enough to activate your abdomen. It's tender enough that I just freeze, but it's not painful.

Thank you for listening. I hope this helps anyone. Please. Ask me anything. I would love to share my experience

Posted Jul 31, 2022, 1:21 AM UTC

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squashqueen•

Glad to hear it went well! :) my only question, is why did they give you a catheter??

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_MerryOP•

To make sure my bladder was 100% empty as they move past it with the robot arms

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squashqueen•

Ohhh wow, I had no idea this was a thing! Interesting

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KingKitSnoCo•

Thank you for sharing!

I do have one question, and it's a silly one... how is 'salpingectomy' pronounced? I have an appointment with my new GP in two weeks, and I'm hoping to bring this up without sounding like an idiot. In my head, I think sapling-ectomy, like removing a baby tree, but with the P and L switched.

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I_AMA_Cyborg_AMATGIF 💙 Thank Godess I'm Fixed ✂️•

You didn't ask me but I think my doctor pronounced it like "sal-pun-jectomy" phonetically. I think Google also has the pronunciation as well if you're more of an auditory learner!

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KingKitSnoCo•

That is super helpful, thank you! I never would have assumed the JECT part of the pronunciation. I'll have to remember that it's eJECTing one's tubes!

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_MerryOP•

I'm the wrong person to ask. I say it by the non technical term. "both tubes removed"

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android_oz•

Thank you for sharing your experience and I'm glad it went well! I'm going in for my consultation next month and I've already been tentatively given a surgery date for September since the obgyn only works part time haha.

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RenNoir988•

Question: Did your partner get sterilization done as well? I think a bisalp is more effective than a vasectomy, but I've always been a fan of the idea that both ought to do it because 1. It shows equal commitment 2. 10000% protection from unwanted pregnancy

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_MerryOP•

That is a great question. I really wanted him to get a vasectomy as soon as possible. I pushed for it as early as Nov 2020 when we got engaged. He too is in favor of having the vasectomy. So far, he is concerned about costs, so he says. Even tho he has never gone to a consultation. When I saw no progress on his end, I just refocused inward. Handled my own business. He has always been supportive of our childfree decision and has never hinted at being a fence sitter. Yet, I do agree with you about both parties showing their commitment by having their personal sterilization. When it came to my procedure, Ida taken out a $1,000,000 loan. Idgaf. I was intent on never having children.

Currently the time sensitivity to the vasectomy is minimal because my sterilization has been completed. I still consider it a priority for both of us to have a truly 0% chance of conception.

At the end of the day I can only control myself and I'm pleased to tell ya.. no babies are coming out of this body. Ever.

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MellenoireMOD35F AU Tubal - MODMAIL childfree friendly doctors!•

Greetings and congratulations on your sterilisation!

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