This is a university-not a day care; Fuck off.

There’s always room to have aspirations and improve, so it’s never too late. The problem is that they don’t have the brain cells to realize other people have aspirations and goals and will be distracted by their brat. They don’t have the brain cells to find daycare or a babysitter.

This is the wrong attitude, it’s never too late to better yourself and follow your dreams, if more parents did they’d be better parents for it and less resentful; also it’s so much more admirable than for them to give up and leech off of others.

People with children are still people. They're allowed to exist outside of being a parent. The actual problem here is the entitlement. When parents think that they're entitled to disrupting others because they don't want to parent their child or get a babysitter, it's a problem.

Some people still think they can have it all.

If you don't have money then why would you decide to have a baby?

So we're assuming she's on welfare?

And we're assuming that if anyone behaves poorly in public that they must be on government assistance?

Welfare has nothing to do with being irresponsible, it's just that some irresponsible people are on welfare. But the two aren't related at all. You shouldn't assume that she's on welfare just because she's irresponsible, it just makes you look judgemental.

Also, some people need government assistance to live due to disability or unfortunate financial circumstance— or both. So on top of looking judgemental, you look classist and ableist. Welfare isn't a bad thing, and using it as an insult is honestly pretty disrespectful.

EDIT: You claim you've been on welfare too, so you should know better. And it doesn't matter if it's not the point of your post, it was a shitty comment and deserves to be called out.

I couldn't tell you. I personally don't bash teen moms.

But how do you know she's on welfare? You're making assumptions with zero facts. There was no need to be disparaging to people on welfare and lumping them in with her negligent behavior.

Being a teen mom is not something people do just for the sake of fun. She might have "popped out a kid" because she had no other choice (contraception/abortion was not available, abusive relationship/family etc). Now she's probably trying to make the best out from her situation. She may not be lucky enough to find daycare for the kid since they are usually pretty expensive. Yeah, the kid's gonna cry, that's what babies do, have you tried to calm one down? It's pretty hard. Also, using 'welfare' and 'teen mom' as an insult is very classist and insensitive of you.

Noted. I'll just comb through the bad ones lolol

Bwahahaha!

I mean if it's cold enough that OP has to eat inside, why do you think the mother can just take her child outside?

I'm not saying it's ideal, but given the lack of affordable childcare, it makes sense. Where else is she supposed to bring her child if it's cold, no daycare is available, and the mother also has her own classes?

It's reasonable to be frustrated about the situation, but that doesn't mean it's totally the mother's fault. And OP was still making hella derogatory comments that had nothing to do with the situation.

I stand by my first statement. Nasty.

She could’ve just said that. This post was incredibly rude, I’m sure that mother is going through it and try the best she can. I don’t like kids either but some perspective is needed

I literally joined the sub this morning, so I was like "wow this is WHACK"

I'm really glad to know it isn't everyone, and hopefully not the majority, who feel this way.

Like we can hate kids. We can hate how people mindlessly have kids. We can hate how people pressure us to have kids. We can want child free spaces.

But hating on people trying to better themselves? Hating on people experiencing poverty and lack of childcare? Thanks, but no thanks. I have enough conservative cousins if I wanted to listen to that bullshit.

pregnancy is objectively disgusting, your vagina can rip all the way down to your anus. sit there and tell me that isn’t disgusting 🤮 and assuming a young mom is on welfare is classist and weird. i know plenty of teen moms/moms who had kids as teens who aren’t on welfare. that’s a bold assumption to make just because she’s young ://

It's not the opinion of the mom, you reeled us in with that one. You lost us at the welfare comment.

But it seems like you are unapologetic about being classist. I guess you got that going for you.

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Well considering how in many societies the birther doesn't have the final say on whether or not to bring life into the world, blaming them for an action they may not have even been on board with just seems kind of...

And even if they "technically" could have avoided pregnancy, the idea of reproduction as the most natural amazing thing and that youre a freak if you possibly dont want to fuck up your/others'/the world's life by bringing another human into the world in such an overbearing wide-spread concept that you're constantly reminded of (as we may all kind of sympathize with) that doing anything but following the status-quo (despite the negatives, and possible personal thoughts on it) is just not something some people are going to do.

Like not everyone is thinking about and listing the pros/cons of this major decision. They just do what's been told is expected of them by their family/community, who coo on about chilren, parenthood, and life, so as to avoid being ostracized. And even if they may want otherwise, they may be forced to go through with it.