my boyfriend doesnt plan dates for us

hey everyone so basically me(18f) and my bf(18) have been dating for 5 months. since the start it has only been me planning dates. and by that i mean picking an activity , booking it , picking a day and paying for it and arranging for us to go out the house. my boyfriend has never done this. i have approached him kindly a few times about it and even suggested to do a date jar together if he finds it hard to pplan dates. he always says he will try and then never does. a week ago we got into an argument about it as i was telling him he is ignoring one of my huge needs as this is how i feel loved - if someone puts in effort to make life memorable. he got all angry at me saying it was unnaceptable for me to say i need dates in a relationship and said we should go on a break (i did not want this , i wanted to work together to figure it out) which lasted 2 days as he decided he didnt want to avoid me anymore. he told me he had planned an at home date for us and saw how excited i got. when the day came to it , he didnt do the date and lied saying i had said i wanted to go play video games. this upset me an i left his house and i told him he had given me a false promise as i was fed up of being ignored when i had asked kindly at the start. he got mad at me for being upset and proceeded to ignore me for the night. all he does is say "we should go to x" but then never books it or arranges a day out. it gets tiring feeling like the only one holding us together is me as we start bickering if we just stay at his all the time. he does other nice things like buy me great gifts or listen to me and show me off to his family or come round when my grandad died, but i kinda feel down for him to shame me for having needs. if he ad asked me to plan dates , sure i wouldve felt a bit down but i always would have tried to meet his needs. why doesnt he want to do this for me. to him a date was us going for a meal with his family on his birthday. but why doesnt he want quality one on one time with me?am i being too harsh? im starting to resent him and snap at him after he got mad at me for having needs and i hate doing that to him. if he had just told me he was not the best at this then i would understand but im more upset at the way that hes ignored me and didnt bother trying when i was kind about it then made me the bad guy when i stand up for myself. but im scared im hurting him without realising.