Sugaring in Ireland... a dead end?

Hi all, So... I have been in the bowl for over 4 years now. I had both good and bad experiences. I met my last SD on Seeking about 2 years ago and it was a wonderful experience, however it came to a mutually agreed ending. I have returned to the bowl about 3 months ago and I had absolutely no luck in finding someone. I have been to a few M&G but, God, there was no spark and too many expectations. I made it clear way before that there will be no sugar on the first date but the SDs seem to be pushing for it, to the point where a guy literally yelled at me and called me a wh**e during the date. I wish social media wouldn't ruin everything it touches. Everyone seems to want to either be or have an SB since it went viral but most of the people refuse to understand SRs are so much more than sugar. I want to find someone to help me grow and teach me something new while I make sure he feels needed and wanted but it seems like all that matters now is the sugar. Has SA really turned into a place where you can go to get cheap sex? Where is the world going? Are the real SD seriously gone?