Here’s a weird one for you… did your narc ever hold your hand weirdly?

Stop. Stop! This is killing me. How do you know this? She would only hold my pinky, which I Hated. Now my partner holds my hand ‘properly’ and it about makes me cry every time.

They do all sorts of shit like this. Mispronounce names on purpose, walk in front of you, basically anything weird or annoying.

Mine would always complain about the way I held his hand. He would complain that my thumb is too tight or constricting, just by my thumb simply being over his. No matter how much I attempted to relax my hand he complained. He said it made him feel smothered or it felt clingy or controlling. There were times I tried to relax my hand so much that he would even complain about how "loose" my hand was. He would convince me that I was horrible at holding hands. He even complained about the way I kissed. Complaining that everytime we kiss that I leave saliva on his upper lip, but it happened for both of us anytime we "French kissed". If you ask me that's normal. So i started pecking lol. He complained then. It was always like my affection or PDA wasn't enough or too much.

Yes he was so fucking weird about holding hands and acted like it was the most annoying request in the world, and would always somehow hold my hand in a weird ass way that was the least intimate as possible

mine held my hand for maybe 2o seconds out in public. then he would always pull away. no matter what. if i tried to hold his hand again itd be the same scenario. always walked ahead of me too.

Yes actually? He would shove his fingers through / against mine so tightly it felt like the webbing was going to rip.

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