They say dating is best if you start out as friends. The online dating sites don't really allow that, you evaluate someone as fast as possible as a mate, when they may have made a good friend that turns into a lover.
Posted Aug 17, 2012, 12:13 PM UTC
Online dating is more like grocery shopping where you're concerned about the ingredients that make up each product. It's highly clinical. I don't see online dating as a successful method for finding true love. It's more for the needy, the superficial, and the time-aficionados.
It doesn't quite accommodate the slower paced sort who are perfectly happy for a result that isn't love-based but friendship-based.
Congratulations on being better then everyone who uses dating websites. Your mother must be very proud.
Have you found true love?
No but I have meet a few quality individuals and have just started seeing a well read, intelligent, and pretty girl. Even if it doesn't turn into "true love" I wouldn't consider any time wasted. Im sorry if you tried and didn't have any luck or worse yet you never tried and are just speaking out of turn but online dating sites can be a great resource for meeting new people. Everyone on those sites are out in the real world too, what difference does it make where you meet them as long as you do.
Online dating is a narrow-downed version of what most of dating is like. The problem with online is that you have to pigeonhole yourself and approach others in a similar fashion.
I try to avoid dating for this very reason. Nevertheless, I have met my current and previous partners through online origins besides IRL origins.
So how do you become lovers if you don't date? Like the OP's submission states: Ideally you approach your interaction as a friendship.
Certainly, dating doesn't welcome such an approach. Everything has constraints.
Who says dating is best if you start out as friends?
Yes they are talking shit cause they are getting friendzoned.
Oh and you used the word lover.
You alwasy go in with an open mind, you will know from the very first time if it is only going to be friendship or if you will be making sweet sweet love with your lover.