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•Are you dependent on him financially? If so, I’m sure you’ll get money out of the divorce

•Never stay “for the kids”. Your kids will grow up thinking this is how parents are supposed to treat each other 

•How exactly can your husband force CPS onto you? And sue for full custody?

When you say that you have fears that he will search and find you and murder you all what is it that causes this fear in particular? You mentioned emotional abuse but what is it that makes you fear that he will murder you all? What is it that he has also done ? 

The law would be on your side if he has been abusive to you and the children so don’t think that you will lose custody or anything else like that.  Also if you stayed up until the kids were old enough that wouldn’t be good for them either.  You clearly feel in danger and that your children are in danger so you need to start making some sort of plans and you need to do so with trusted friends or family of yours or an organisation that can help

I’m hung up on whether leaving is more risky than staying