•You don’t fall in love after 4 months. You don’t plan a future with them in 4 months

•Don’t have a LDR immediately after getting together 

•Recognize that your schedules are incompatible 

•Continue to plan FaceTime talks. If he continues to cancel and not put effort into them, then break up. It’s not like you were together long. The emotional games are tiring and frustrating

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If he can’t find even a few minutes for a FaceTime or similar then you are not one of his priorities, not saying that you should be his first priority because it doesn’t always work like that but you and the relationship should certainly be a priority of some sort.

It’s a LDR of only 4 months so just scratch it off

he seems like he's got a lot going on and your relationship has taken a back seat. i don't think he has the energy to continue a relationship. 

 i know you're looking for things you can do to make it better but in this case, there's not much you can do tbh. you communicated to him what your extremely valid needs are and if he doesn't put in effort then idk what to tell you.

my honest advice would be to breakup with him (or atleast take a break) since you're not a priority for him rn and its just gonna continue like this cause he knows you'll stick with him no matter what. but since you don't wanna breakup its gonna stay the same and you'll suffer till he decides otherwise.

edit: also i know breaking up with someone you love so much might seem like the end of the world and that you'll never find someone as good as him but its not true. yes he has mental health issues but doesn't mean you have to hurt your own mental health worrying over your relationship.

LDR is difficult. and its o

My (21F) long-distance bf (19M) keeps canceling plans, what do I do?