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r/sexadvicefromgrandma•
anne-exe

my bf asked for a threesome and i'm not sure how to ask someone else to join, any advice on this, please?

i'm open to try new things, in fact, i was kinda the one who suggested it. I told him we could try it under my conditions and requests and he agreed. He said he's willing to try with another guy (cause i feel more comfortable that way) but he told me to look for someone to join, that way I can feel comfortable and safe, however, I've never really asked someone to join in.

I kinda have a friend in mind, however, i'm not sure how to ask him or anyone else to join us, how could i ask someone, any advice on this?

Posted Nov 6, 2022, 2:17 AM UTC

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hosijna•

Do you have the feeling the friend would be down? In that case you can be honest and forward. Ask him in a situation where you feel comfortable and just be honest :) that you find him attractive, and that your bf and you look for a third person

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Guilty-Train-5143•

I think you should gauge whether this person would be interested in participating or not first. How do you think they would react? Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. Some guys feel weird about letting other guys seek them naked, so try to consider this too. If you’re sure that the guy you have in mind would be a good option, then I would just ask him straight up: “My boyfriend and I are wanting to enhance our sex life by adding a third person. We feel like you could be a good fit. Would you be down? If not, no worries.”

If you don’t wanna ask someone you know, you could try finding someone on Grindr or (maybe) Tinder.

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Itchy_Antelope1278•

Have a long talk about exactly what you both want from a MFM 3 some. What are the barriers? How involved will your bf be with the other guy? Kind of script it out to see what it is you both want. DP, spit roast, one just watching while the other two are engaged? Then make sure you let the 3rd know what they can expect and see if they're into whatever that is.

How to approach? Is this a friendship you wouldn't mind losing? If it is then find a 3rd on a dating site. If your bf doesn't want to engage with the guy it won't be that hard. Finding a 3rd female is the unicorn. 3rd dude is a lot easier.

If I was the bf I'd also want to know if you suggested this because you just wanted to f your friend and this was a non-cheating way to do it?

Generic 3rd is a lot different than this guy I really want to fuck but we're together so how about we do a 3 some?

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jurasic_stuff12•

Don't invite someone you know well, two main reasons, you may get feelings or if its bad or akward then you have to see them again. I'd go online and ask but make it clear that thats what you two are looking for. Or go to a bar together and see where the night takes you old style...

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Riherdai•

I would ask him after few drinks.. Invite your friend for a drink and after a while tell him the situation. If he agrees go ahead. Good luck.

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LadyYume•

Just be direct and honest.

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