Yeah, and in not all of the cases you'll get your money back..

Also it is not the normal appointments that pisses me off like this. It is booking for shows (dancing), bookings I have made. It shows us as being not serious and it is very embarassing for me to cancel after doing all the work. I am the one who has to make time, i have school, work, children and she only has her hobbies where she makes a bit here and there and that’s why it pisses me off so much. It was a paid job as well.

I understand very well, she needs to learn to say no when appropriate to prevent these kind of situations

Could be that. I am just still very angry, sometimes you have to live up to your responsibilities and the promises you make to others anxiety or not. I have dealt with anxiety, it is not like i have no understandment for it or her. But i am just a person as well.

Just out of curiosity, are you sure it's not fear or anxiety from her side? Some people are people pleasers and say yes even though they know they can't keep their word, out of fear of losing others.. And then fail to keep their word out of fear for making other mistakes.

I am sorry it sounds like you have been through a lot with that. 

It is not the normal appointments that pisses me off like this. Other people if they cancel like this and tell me what is up, I can live with it. But it is booking for shows (dancing), bookings I have made that makes me furious. It shows us as being not serious and it is very embarassing for me to cancel after doing all the work. She doesn’t get us any jobs, I do everything. 

I am the one who has to make time, i have school, work, children and she only has her hobbies where she makes a bit here and there (her parents still provide for her as well, we are both f25) and that’s why it pisses me off so much and I say she is a bit entitled and oblivious to other people’s time. Like one day we were gonna meet one of my friends, I was with her and we got delayed. We were late and I texted him explaining. Then she told me we should cancel after him waiting 30 minutes for us because it was late for him. I said no, I could total

It's really unfair to you and everyone else, so you have good reason to move on. But not knowing her, I'm not convinced it's a problem of entitlement.

I'm one who has cancelled on people a lot due to anxiety and depression problems. I've made plans I'm excited about then the day of meeting up I can barely get out of bed or I'm feeling so awful I know I'm gonna be irritable and bad company to be in. 

My boyfriend and best friend deal with this by doing the same with me. They cancel on me whenever they feel like and know I'll be totally understanding. 

My new solution has been to only make tentative plans and never commit to anything except same day meet ups. People don't like that either but at least I'm not cancelling. 

Your friend may just not be very nice, or she may have personal struggles you don't know about. Either way, you don't have to put up with it and it's understandable you're hurt and angry. 

We do currently have a cultural problem where people break plans just becaus

It sounds like the biggest source of stress/frustration is that she cancels on bookings that make you look bad/not serious about your shows and cause you to lose out on money. I think the solution to that is you need to stop seeing her as a potential partner for these shows until she proves herself to be more consistent with follow-through. I think you could tell her that, and honestly I wouldn’t make it a discussion, I would just say it kindly but firmly and not engage in a back-and-forth. Allow her to be angry and/or sad and to get over it on her own time.

As someone who struggled a lot with her problem when I was younger (saying yes to too many things and then cancelling often because I felt depressed and anxious), it is 100% okay if there are consequences for cancelling things that cause a real tangible issue ($, inconveniencing others, etc.). As far as consequences for the social problems she causes (maybe because of mental illness), you just have to decide how much grace you hav

My friend keep cancelling last minute, not just on me but on everybody