I'm not sure where else to post this but my GIRLFRIENDS shrink called HER a misogynistic pig and spent 5 minutes telling her how horrible she was.
This is a guy whose blatantly hit on her since she started seeing him. He used his position as therapist to try to convince her to break up with me. She lied to him to get him to stop. Since then he got even more aggressive.
She told me about how on her last visit they talked about a recent rape victim in the area. She said she had no sympathy for the girl because she was a dumbass for walking through an isolated area then an even more isolated path of forest at 3am. The girl saying this has been raped several times and the shrink is fully aware... Apparently her shrink found that horribly offensive. Saying the girl was a dumbass made my girlfriend a misogynist pig. Saying that people should not take basic safety precautions (that every sane person takes) made my girlfriend... someone who has been a victim of numerous horrific crimes... a 'victim blamer' in the eyes of her shrink.
I don't even know what to do. It just seems so fucked up.
Posted Sep 14, 2012, 1:37 AM UTC
Why didn't she find a new therapist?
It wouldn't be nearly as good of a story. Sorry, I'm cynical.
No, you're right; but, if you were seeing a therapist like the one described, would you stick around?
Maybe he's inexpensive? Kinda makes you wonder why...
Or maybe there aren't any others around if they're in a rural area?
He sounds very expensive, given that she's essentially paying for nothing and/or abuse.
This is reasonable, but I doubt it; it doesn't sound like he's particularly interested in helping people, which means he probably got into it because of the money; and, the money is not in rural areas.
Me too, sadly. Lots of red flags here, first one being that it's off topic.
University insurance, university therapist.
'Murrica.
...if he's not a self employed therapist, and there is a school above him, why hasn't she complained? We complain here about false accusations, but that doesn't mean real ones shouldn't be filed.
Get her to bring an audio recording device of some sort (there's probably an app for this, haha), record the harassment, and then bring it to the proper authority. Tell her you'll go with her if she's nervous (to the authority, not the session); but, if she refuses to do so, for whatever reason, you should wonder why...
This. Completely. Just as with being proactive to reduce the chance of an assault, your girlfriend can and should be proactive to prevent medical personnel from being abusive to her. If she is interested in making it stop, there are things she can easily do. If she is intent on tolerating it she may not be being honest with you about what is really going on.
In addition to talking to the school authorities, if your girlfriend's therapist is a psychologist, she can file an ethics complaint with the controlling authority. If you're in America, that's the American Psychological Association. If you're not, the controlling board's name will come up if you google "file a complaint against a therapist" with your country's name. A shrink who hits on patients is dangerous.
The therapist is violating a number of guidelines defining the relationship with him and his patients. Your girlfriend could easily have his license revoked.
She should have stopped going. She talks of safety precautions, well this guy has been sending red flags for awhile now.