BlueGlassMan

BS3 here, currently renting. I'm divorced and renting a place in my kid's school zone so they experience as little disruption as possible. The housing market in my area is pretty pricey, and even if I managed to save 10% down on a 15 year fixed loan my mortgage would be higher than what I'm currently paying for rent. Getting to a 20% down payment will take years, especially considering that my vehicle is ten years old and my daughter will be driving soon, so I'm going to need a new to me car and help chip in for her car/insurance.

Also, the fact that I don't have to worry about lawn maintenance, repairs, etc. seems like a good trade off for renting vs. buying. Anyone else out there in th

I seem to see the same profiles repeatedly on the app. Does anyone have a system of logging which people you've reached out to? I don't want to keep bothering someone who hasn't responded to my message?

It seems a little weird to keep a spreadsheet of women who have ignored my attempts.

Can anyone shed some light on this?

I'm contemplating getting a tattoo. What did you all do with the money?

Most of my friends aren't into hip hop, and my one true hip hop head buddy can't go with me. I'm going regardless, but it would be cool to not stand around by myself.

Can anyone give suggestions for an income tax calculator designed to predict payments from a QDRO payment in the state of Florida? My STBX will be transferring the money to me soon per the provisions of our marriage settlement agreement. I plan to use that settlement to pay off debts.

Coming over from the Galaxy S7. I ran Nova Launcher and Tasker. With the new system, it's Tasker even necessary anymore? I mostly used it to toggle Wi-Fi on/off based on my cell tower.

I'm looking for suggestions of books that you found helpful during, or even after the divorce process. I'd be particularly interested in books about co-parenting, or being a single dad.

The last few days I've been feeling like a failure. I've given up on any hope of reconciliation, but I am hoping to reconcile with my circumstances.

Any and all recommendations are welcome. Thanks in advance.

My relationship with my mother is...unique. I'm thinking about mailing her a letter because talking on the phone usually ends up being very one-sided. Does anyone have any examples/advice they can share?

How do you handle your breaks? I'm home all week for Spring Break. Their mom sent them with $50 for the two of them, so basically $5/kid per day. I love spending time with them but I feel like I am being taken advantage of. What's the best approach to asking for a little more money so we an actually DO things together as a family? Their mom has bristled at this notion every time I bring it up.

My wife and I are separated and are in the early stages of beginning the divorce procedure. When we originally separated 5 months ago, we initially agreed to a 4 day/3 day split for the kids. Now that a divorce is pending, I am asking for 50/50 custody using the 2/2/3 model. She is not agreeing to this proposal and wants to keep things the way that they are. What options do I have here? Is there a way to "force" her to agree to 50/50 custody? We never drew up a formal agreement when we separated and I'm worried that a precedent has been set that I will not be able to undo and I won't get 50% custody. There has never been an issue of domestic violence, neglect, or abuse. FWIW, I live in Flori

I'm a 40/m, married for 16 years with two children. My wife and I have been separated for the past 5 months and she told me tonight that she wants a divorce. We had grown distant over the years (I struggle with depression and attachment issues) and she has had enough. I had been holding on to hope but always knew in the back of my mind that this is where we were probably going to end up. Reading the posts here have been encouraging, as much as they can be when it comes to a tough time like this.

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I am going to continue to search this sub for help, tips, and strategies in regards to the divorce process.

Looking to continue my momentum and really focus for the next 39 days. I grew up a non-denominational Christian so we never observed Lent but the church that I go to now has been getting back to some more traditional practices. I'm hoping that I use this time wisely and reflect.