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My partner and I (36F/37M) have been together for 14 years, living together for 12. We have pets, no kids. We grew up together — degrees, careers, and we even moved from the Midwest to California together.

Despite me telling him several times that marriage and kids are both things I want, we’ve been in a holding pattern. I’ve “proposed” a couple of times. Mostly me saying, “I love you and I want to be married to you.” When this happens, he seems happy but makes some statement about needing time, wanting to be more financially secure, etc.

I have known fertility issues, so having children naturally will probably be difficult. We haven’t started that process, and I would want to be marrie

In 2024 I lost my job and went on covered California insurance. End of 2024 I got a new job and started my employer insurance.

I thought I cancelled my covered CA. I really did. I was still getting occasional pieces of mail and email, but nothing that made me think “you need to do something.”

Went to file my taxes. I now owe over $5000 for a year of totally sued insurance. Fuck.