DadToOne

My son has his first appointment with a psychiatrist today. His mom and I are not together. I am 99% certain he is AuDHD. I am currently being treated by a psychiatrist for AuDHD. I know this information can be important for my son's psychiatrist given the genetics of the situation. I just really hate letting my ex-wife know my diagnosis. But as it is an online appointment no real easy way to share without her knowing. Makes me feel very vulnerable for her to know that.

I went into it thinking that she would say I have ADHD. Several family members do and it just seemed to fit. Came out of it with her telling me I am likely autistic as well. She said we could do testing but at my age, almost 50, most people don't. I don't think I will do testing for it as I don't need the official label as there is no medicine for autism. She did give me a prescription for Adderall and I am going to start it tomorrow. I am sitting here feeling completely emotionally wrung out and just trying to come to grips with it all.

They called to talk to me about my benefits. I answered the phone in Spanish and continued to talk in Spanish. Guy asked if I speak English and I said no and asked if he speaks Spanish. He told me that he was sorry but they only had English speaking staff currently and hung up. Not exactly Dreaming Spanish related but a fun use of what I am learning.

Sometimes when I am walking or driving I feel an urge to close my eyes. It's not a suicidal thing. I just feel like I have close them. Like everything is too overwhelming and I need to close my eyes for a couple seconds and reset or something. Not the best urge to have when I am going down the highway at 65+. Just wondering if I am alone in this or if it could be an ADHD thing.

So I'm divorced and have an 11 year old son. I got him a phone for his birthday. At my house input strict limits on it. He gets 3 hours max per day and stricter limits on apps like YouTube and Roblox. I remove the restrictions when he goes to his mom's house because I feel like it is her job to parent him there. She often lets him spend 8+ hours on his phone and the majority of that is YouTube. I pay for the phone 100%. Trying to decide if I should put limits on the phone when he is with her. Thoughts? I feel like she should parent him there but I dislike the way she is letting him use the phone. He has literally spent 11+ hours on his phone on days there.

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Location: Ohio

I have an 11 year old. His mom and I are divorced. I got him a phone for his birthday, which may have been a mistake. At my house he has strict limits on it. He gets 3 hours max and only 1 hour each of YouTube and Roblox.

At his mom's house he has no restrictions on it. Yesterday he was on it for over 9 hours, mostly YouTube. On Tuesday it was over 10 hours and almost 7 hours of that were YouTube. Any chance that I could use this, it is a pattern and not just this week, as grounds for change of custody?

My son is 11 and we got him a cell phone for his birthday (divorced and it makes communication much easier). I have parental controls on it and noticed he has been spending more time on it than I like (up to 11 hours a day at his mom's). I put restrictions on it including a max 1 hour of YouTube per day. Tonight I looked and noticed he had spent over an hour on Chrome. Asked him about it and he tried to play it off as just searching some stuff. I told him I'm not stupid and asked if he was using Chrome to watch YouTube and get past my restrictions. He admitted he was. Phone is now taken away for a day.

I'm not sure what I'm more upset about. That he used Chrome to get around the restrictio

We are using Claude and they want us to use it as much as possible. I have skills set up on it that log my work, check my tickets daily, keep track of my MRs, and more. It is so great. When I drift off onto some rabbit trail, I can have it check my log and let me know what I was supposed to be doing. No more forgetting I created an MR and it has been sitting there for a week. A daily slack message with all of my open tickets and visual clues for anything that is due soon or overdue. Absolutely loving it.

I was talking to my wife the other day and wanted to say something about buying avocados. Unfortunately I could not pull the word avocado from my brain at all. I kept thinking aguacate. She doesn't speak Spanish so that was useless. Anyone else find themselves mixing up Spanish and English?

I have been on Wellbutrin for years and doing pretty well most of the time. I have gone up and down on doses just depending on how I am doing. I am on 450mg right now. my depression is back and worse than it has been in years. I am struggling to work or do anything. I just want to crawl in a hole and hide. I talked to my doctor and he wanted to add Cymbalta but one dose made me feel like shit. And when I read about the side effects and withdrawal I decided not to take it. But I don't know what to do. I am in such a dark place. I am not suicidal but I have been before and I don't want to get there again.

I got a ride with a Spanish speaking Uber driver. He spoke English probably slightly better than I speak Spanish. but we had a conversation in Spanish and he was able to understand me and I could understand him. I was so excited. although my wife realized that I was talking about her and insisted on knowing what I was saying (I was just saying she was in pain from walking in her heels).