We had an argument about something stupid I did (I messed up and apologized), but she raised her voice and threw stuff in my face (figuratively). That is a no-go for me, so I tried to set the boundary of us not doing that to each other. We should try to take a few minutes (or hours, or days) instead of having an argument with yelling and heat.
We had maybe 2 serious discussions in ~8 months of dating, and it (the yelling and throwing stuff) only happened in the last one, so I had to bring it up a few days after it happened. I had to set the boundary. This conversation (which happened yesterday) was great, civilized and peaceful. But now she is saying she is unsure, that it felt like an ul