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I made sure they understood what that meant and they said yes they feel like a girl, let them know if they wanted to explore anything new to just let me know. They are not there yet with wanting to explore new clothes or anything yet.

I also let them know i wouldn’t tell anyone including their father (married, all live together) and they requested to keep it between us for now.

I honestly understand why they don’t want to tell my husband. More recently he has made it clear he doesn’t “understand why people do that”. I always tell him you don’t have to understand something for it to be a completely ok thing for someone else to enjoy their life however it makes them happy.

I have no idea

Currently have about $20K in CC debt. Payments are getting out of hand with my husband bringing less home.

It looks like I can get a 60 month loan at 17% interest instead of the 30% I am currently at. It would take the payments down monthly from $644 to $468.

My monthly take home after insurance/taxes is $2314

My husband will hopefully be getting more hours soon but currently about $1500 monthly.

Other bills:

Rent: $750

Utilities: cold months $250

Car: $550

Car Insurance: $170

IRS: $78

- issue has been fixed, do not owe this year

Phone: $100

Groceries: $600 ish

Internet: $67

Student loans: $129

- I should be on my last student loan payment this month, I should be at

So my husband has a lot of experience with the food industry. A good portion was at a major pizza chain. They’re hiring for managers he’s put in an application and had an interview on Friday. This guy that interviewed him was apparently a newer general manager. He told him starting pay was $14 an hour. Not great. What he’s making now elsewhere as a regular employee no management expectations. Then after my husband starts asking more questions this guy revealed the truth. He has decided shift managers get bumped down to normal pay if a higher level manager is on staff (which is usually half the shift) and he also wants 4 hours of the shift to be delivery driving for that lower pay as well. W