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I asked my husband to leave about a year ago after it became crystal clear that he would always choose porn and being emotionally shut down. We’re sharing custody of our teenage son and things are going pretty well.

I reconnected with an old (male) friend at my 30 year HS reunion and we clicked and have been spending time together. It’s been incredible to have some normal back into my life. He’s a normal healthy man. He is actually into me and can tell me so. We’re able to emotionally and physically connect in ways I’d never dreamed would be possible. He is a healthy influence on my son and is able to provide a non-skewed perspective to him in all the areas about porn and objectification

Married 19 years. One teen. I should’ve done this 15 years ago when he first lied and hid his relapse. Instead I stopped checking for porn use and let all the obvious signs be dismissed as medical issues and so forth.

Last D-day was the end of June. He made very minimal actions towards fixing it but I did at least make him tell his parents what was going on, knowing otherwise they’d see everything as my fault.

I saw that his actions did NOT indicate true interest in changing. Also finally knowing that his porn addiction is the root behind all that has added up to my low self esteem and having my life be far less happy than it should be. We decided to separate.

He didn’t get any help t

Him not looking anymore is the big success here, right? How about us? A magic finger snap and we’re supposed to be proud of him and thankful for his effort. Maybe even feel a little sorry that now he had to give up his very favorite pastime that makes his dick feel good. And that means maybe it’s our job again, right? 🙄

He’s talked to a therapist twice in the 6 weeks since last d-day. He put his iPad in the cabinet vs next to his bed. He took FB off his phone. He usually remembers to not take his phone the bathroom. He’s kept himself busy busy busy with house projects.

Clearly these are the thinnest, most minimal efforts he could be making. If it weren’t for our teen, I would’ve finally left this time. I’ve given up trying to care, he’s hurt me and destroyed all my self confident and eroded away my happiness over our 19 years of marriage. He’s only ever stopped using for 4 to 6 months of all that time, though I had no idea it was still going on for the last 10 years or so until the last d-day.

At th

I saw my therapist today who I’ve talked to about my husband being a PA. My most recent d-day (after being clueless for many many years) was around a month ago, we’ve been married 19 years and I learned then that he’s never stopped using after I learned about his addiction maybe 10 years ago.

I told him recently that he has a problem and that it’s up to him to decide if he wants to fix it and if so he’ll need to figure out what to do and how to do it. I told him that I’m not going to let it be MY problem anymore, meaning all the repercussions such as our lack of a sex life, my mental plummeted self esteem, and how I feel like he doesn’t care about me as a person.

He’s been way attentiv

I (48HLF) have struggled for the last 15 years of our 19 year marriage with feeling unloved, unattractive, and broken. His (55LLM) use of porn popped up early on and I questioned if its use replaced me. He swore it didn’t and told me he stopped using it. Then time went on and his health had some things emerge and I accepted that he was simply uninterested in sex.

Turns out my keen investigation helped discover his porn use on his iPad and accompanying masturbation in spite of his attempts to hide everything.

I confronted him and demanded answers. He admitted that his porn addiction never ended and he’s never stopped. I suspected that for years, he’s “faked” climaxing with me the rare ti

Reddit is the best part of most days for me. It makes me see I’m not really such an outlier. It’s giving me some great guidance as it has in the past. So glad to be celebrating 8 years.

We’ve been married 18 years and have a teen. Our relationship is most certainly in the friendship zone. I’ve attempted for the last 15 or so years to initiate a regular sex life and have failed. It’s been one excuse after another, each one being addressed and dealt with, with no improvement. I’m ready to admit defeat on that but also want to stop pretending and move into the guest room I’ve been fixing up for myself.

My mentions of this have been met with resistance. He says he would hate to wake up without me next to him. I don’t really care but am interested in suggestions of how to make this happen without a ton of hard feelings or animosity.

Like title says, my friend visited a MAT yesterday and had his first vivitrol injection. After I left him to come home he went out and purchased a bottle of hard liquor and consumed much of it, with plans to finish it today. Supposedly this was intended as one last hoorah with booze before the medication sets in. He was certainly feeling it and the booze was impacting him just like it always has. He started drinking 6-7 hours after his injection. He hadn’t drank for a week prior.

He’s previously taken naltrexone and felt it didn’t help at all but admits he wasn’t super regular with his dosing.

He obviously needs to start with a therapist and/or in an IOP, which is the plan for this com

Sorry if this is already answered elsewhere. We just booked our first NCL cruise yesterday for this summer from Southampton to Reykjavik, via Belgium and Holland on the Prima.

We are just doing the free at sea with the un-upgraded drink package. It appears no energy drinks are included with this one, is that correct? What kind of energy drinks are sold onboard?

What is your favorite drink that we should make sure we don’t miss?

Thanks!!

Seven years for me. Happy Cake Day to you!