I think one of my hooks when I waa younger was believing that beautiful women were so special that it made sense to worship them without getting too close and letting them discover my own faults and failings. I knew i was a great guy, but I couldn't be that great. So I had all kinds of stories about what (impossible things) it would take to get and keep a relationship.
Porn trapped me inside that delusion so I never took the chance to discover for real the incredible capacity of a woman to love a man. Never had great role models of that in my family either.
Yes, I had the occasional fling, but I was burned out and essentially traumatized by porn, and never got enough practice at dating and
Does anyone else have this? I think the desire for female approval is a big part of the fantasy underlying my porn addiction.
All the porn I watch is really about making myself important and desirable to a woman, even if someone looking over my shoulder wouldn't see it that way.
When you think about it like that, it becomes apparent that there are lots of other ways to achieve the desired status. Sex doesn't necessarily make you important and desirable and it is possible to be important and desirable without being ridiculously sexy. Turns out lots of women will prioritise love over sex, which means men can afford to do so too and not end up alone.
A bell tolling I'm a vacuum has no really rapid way to dissipate energy. Some vibrations will be conducted through the pivot and mounts, sure, some will be lost by internal damping.. But if it gets a new whack of energy into it with every swing of the tongue, surely it will shatter maybe after getting rather hot.