I recently had my fifth baby. Throughout my pregnancy and postpartum period, I’ve been struggling with my relationship with my adoptive mother and I’m questioning whether my expectations are unreasonable.
I have five children, my oldest two have autism who require extra patience, understanding, and support. My parents rarely ask to see them, rarely check in on them, and didn’t come over for Easter or even ask to see them. Growing up, I always spent holidays with my grandparents and there was a strong emphasis on family, so it’s hard for me to understand.
My mother frequently undermines me as a parent. If I give instructions, she often does things her own way. She also tells stories about