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I'm not doing this ATS, AI evaluation, begging the computers to talk to a person. No, having an income is simply too essential to try to pry from people who are so clearly trying hard not to hire or pay anyone.

I've been cold calling small businesses in my field and telling literally whoever I can talk to my experience and qualifications. I've been invited to meet the owners of three places in just as many weeks and took a position managing a shop which I've wanted to do for a long time. The people that need help are motivated to get people in and working, but may not want to mess with indeed or glassdoor trying to find people.

For context, I'm 35; I've dated a fair bit, was married for a few years, and now I'm back on the market.

So I met someone at a mutual activity a while back and we see each other pretty regularly. And it's just been a thing where the more I find out the more interested I am. She's just so charming and gorgeous lol. I swear I can feel myself blushing whenever she gets to being herself.

And then the weird part; I've even felt a little jealous! I don't do jealous; I've been in a polycule ffs. I don't even know if she's gay lol. And because of that I've been very careful to keep it to myself but it's... not been easy lol.

What is your weird crush right now? I can't be the only one struggling

So basically, I don't know what order the steps to getting a slip looks like, and I dont want to be embarrassed when I start calling around.

Money is not an issue because my overhead is extremely low. My problem is that my ex-wife is still on my credit report so my score is hovering right around 600 after a year. I called one place -- a fantastic sample size; I know, that has a hard 650 requirement which like, okay cool but I guess it's still a bit "hurry up and wait" while my credit score ebbs and flows although I'm always current on my one credit card. And I'm really hoping not to have to wait seven years because I'll be 42 lol.

Also, what's the sequence? Like, they want to know the hull

I've been practicing for a few years and decided on a whim that I'd like to share some of my favorite spells, and hear about yours!

I love making things, and most of my practice involves making charms and other things ✨️with vibes✨️. Like making a ring or dress that makes me feel extra confident, or like... I like to wear bells to attract things and people into my life.

So like, I guess that's one; using bells to attract and sometimes cleanse. You *do* have to be careful what you keep, because not everything that comes into your life needs to stay. But I have a bronze bell I made on a silver necklace I also made that I'll wear on occasion. Last time I wore it, I met a friend of a friend

Since moving to a new city, I've met a bunch of really interesting folks with crazy high speed careers. And every one that I've talked to has basically said that they knew someone kinda deal and ended up where they are.

But like a lot of us, I'm in my 30's, my career didn't work out and I'm in that funky spot where I could really use a pivot to something new but the traditional avenues haven't been fruitful.

And I got to thinking like, I know these folks now!: how do I break into the world of networking and navigate this without coming across in a bad way? What are the rules and social norms around this kind of thing?

Any advice? I know a lot of ND folks have the same problem but I figur