My brother in law recently got engaged. We are super excited for them, and were totally prepared to fly long distance (in Canada), as we live in different places. We are paying for them to fly for our wedding this summer, as also paid for a suit for my BIL as he didn’t have one and isn’t working right now.
They are now floating the idea of a wedding in Madagascar, maybe Fiji, or somewhere tropical that no one has been to (and isn’t connected to our families). Flights to Madagascar - a minimum of $2500 round trip with multiple overnight layovers.
Even at the best of times, I think asking this of your family is disrespectful, because you are just pushing wedding costs onto them. But with


