Background info: we have been together for a year agree in things like marriage and kids. We mostly live together. She keeps in contact with her ex (who she is still married to) which I knew and was kind of ok with provided she answered questions about their interactions which she did.
As I was leaving town for a trip that hand been scheduled for a while, she called and said "hey my ex is driving up a bunch of furniture." Her ex lives 8 hours away. I said it was kind of odd and she said well he just called. I was a little upset and skeptical and said "OK but please don't go to dinner and keep me informed."
Later that night she said "well he actually told me two weeks ago but I've been sic

