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I feel like me and my kid argue about everything lately.

I’ll ask him to do something pretty simple and he just says no or ignores me. Then I repeat myself, he gets more upset, I get frustrated, and somehow it turns into a whole thing.

The hardest part is that it’s not just one behavior. He’ll have these big tantrums, sometimes gets aggressive, and then a few days later we’re dealing with basically the same thing again.

I’ve tried being patient, explaining things, setting rules, consequences etc but honestly sometimes I just end up yelling because I don’t know what else to do in the moment.

And then afterwards I feel terrible about it.

I don’t want to be super strict or scare him into l

I feel like me and my kid argue about everything lately.

I’ll ask him to do something pretty simple and he just says no or ignores me. Then I repeat myself, he gets more upset, I get frustrated, and somehow it turns into a whole thing.

The hardest part is that it’s not just one behavior. He’ll have these big tantrums, sometimes gets aggressive, and then a few days later we’re dealing with basically the same thing again.

I’ve tried being patient, explaining things, setting rules, consequences etc but honestly sometimes I just end up yelling because I don’t know what else to do in the moment.

And then afterwards I feel terrible about it.

I don’t want to be super strict or scare him into l

I've been trying really hard not to yell but some days it feels impossible.

My kid refuses to listen, argues about everything and sometimes has a full meltdown. I try explaining, asking nicely, giving choices etc but after doing it over and over I eventually lose my patience.

Then once everything is calm I feel horrible about yelling.

The worst part is I know I don't want to parent like that, I just don't know what to do differently in those moments.

What do you do when you feel yourself about to lose it?

I really don't want to be a harsh parent.

But at the same time, there are rules in our house and my kid constantly pushes them.

I'll say no, then they ask again... and again... and eventually I'm so tired of arguing that sometimes I give in.

Then I feel like I just taught them that if they keep pushing, I'll eventually say yes.

I want to have boundaries without being mean or controlling.

How do you guys find that balance?