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We have 5 months boy twins who look VERY different from each other (one has black hair and the other has blond hair, to start). Their names are also quite different. But our very smart, highly verbal 3.5 year old still calls them “that one” most of the time. When he does attempt a name, he gets it wrong at least half of the time. He knows both names and can pronounce them easily. We remind him at least once a day which baby is which (“X is the one with the dark hair, and Y is the one with the light hair”). But it just doesn’t seem to stick! It’s starting to feel a little ridiculous after 5+ months of him knowing the twins.

Did anyone have a similar issue with their older kid? Any tips?

My twins were born at 35+1, and their weights were in something like the 5th and 10th percentiles (not adjusting for prematurity).

For the first few months of their lives, they were climbing percentiles pretty steadily, but that seems to have slowed down quite a bit over the past month or so. They are now 4.5 months and around the 25th and 35th percentiles.

I’m wondering if that’s likely where they will stay. Neither my husband nor I are particularly small, and our first has generally been around the 50th-75th percentile for weight, so I guess I would have expected the twins to be a little bigger. Is there still time for them to catch up?

(Part of the reason I am thinking about this is th

Hi all! I just wanted to share something that recently happened to my son in case it helps someone else.

I have 3 month twins who were born about 5 weeks early. One of them developed an umbilical hernia at about 6 weeks. This is when part of the intestine bulges through a gap in the abdominal wall near the belly button. They’re quite common in babies, especially premature ones, and they usually resolve on their own by a few years of age without causing any complications. If they don’t resolve on their own, kids will typically get them surgically repaired around 4-5 years.

One serious complication of hernias is strangulation, which happens when the intestines get stuck (incarcerated) leadin

One of my 3 month EBF twins just had to go to the hospital and will likely be there for a day or two. He’s there with my husband, and I’m staying home with the other twin and our older son.

Given that it’s July 4 and the hospital is downtown, I’m not going to be able visit to nurse him or bring pumped milk until tomorrow, so he will be getting formula.

I’m feeling a little anxious about maintaining my supply, even though it will likely be a short time. The twins usually tandem nurse, so maybe I just pump on the side while nursing the other twin on the other side? Is there anything else I should be considering?

My 3-year-old got his haircut yesterday. He picked out a style himself from pictures, and chose one that’s sort of spiky on top - think like a very subtle faux hawk. He really liked how it looked when the barber styled it, but after we gave him a bath and dried it without any styling products, it’s not sufficiently spiky for his tastes.

Any recommendations for a kid-friendly product for this? It doesn’t necessarily need to be marketed as a kids’ product, but I’d like to avoid overpowering perfume-y or cologne-y scents. I’m kind of clueless about these types of products, as neither I nor my husband uses anything like this.

We may be crazy, but we will be taking our will-be 2.5 month old twins (and 3 year old) on a 6 hour flight, and week-long Airbnb stay, in a couple of weeks.

(If you are wondering why on earth we would do this to ourselves: we want to visit my husband’s family, including his very elderly grandmother, before his parental leave is up because he has very minimal PTO.)

Fortunately, two additional family members are joining us to help out. We know that we can only have one lap infant per row, so we’ll be spread out between two rows.

I’m feeling pretty overwhelmed about all of the logistics and things we need to bring. We made this same trip with our first when he was just a little older, but th

We have 8 week (3 week adjusted) twins, and lately it has been a struggle to settle them back to sleep after night feeds. (They have also been waking up a lot more frequently. It has not been a fun time.)

My husband and I do shifts overnight, so we need to be able to get both to sleep solo. I would love to be able to hold/rock each one for however long it takes to get them truly asleep, and then set them down, but as I’m soothing one the other is usually starting to fuss. So I end up putting down one baby and picking up the other to prevent them from getting to an all-out cry. This amounts to alternating between comforting the two babies for a few minutes at time. It takes a long time to ge

I went non-dairy starting a few weeks ago and quickly realized that I’m not a fan of non-dairy cheese (I tried several different brands). So instead, I’ve found myself replacing the cheese in dishes with something that has a similar vibe / achieves a similar purpose without trying to closely approximate cheese.

For example, I have been topping my pasta with toasted panko breadcrumbs. When my family has chicken quesadillas, I put refried beans in mine instead of cheese. The other day I ordered a no-cheese pizza and topped it with some avocado and a sprinkle of salt (didn’t love that sub as much - any other recommendations?)

Would love to hear if anyone else has a similar approach with repla

My twins are 7 weeks, 2 weeks adjusted (although they were born at 6lbs and are already meeting many 2 month milestones, so I’m not sure how much sense it makes to use their adjusted age).

I know this is very young still, and that we shouldn’t expect a regular nap/wake schedule yet. But we have been struggling with the twins being very alert and difficult to settle at night, so we are trying to ensure that they get adequate wake time during the day. We would ideally like to use wake windows as a rough guide and look for sleepiness signs.

The problem is that they fall asleep nearly every time they eat (especially while nursing, but usually while bottle feeding as well). So they’ll get a 10-

We have 7 week old twins and a 3.5 year old. Everything has been hard, but evenings have probably been the hardest between getting dinner on the table and getting everyone to bed. Even on a good day it feels like we are barely getting through it, and most days it feels like an utter shitshow.

The twins have a witching hour that basically goes from 5pm until they go to sleep around 9pm, which doesn’t help. I know that the fussy newborn phase will pass eventually, but I’m sure that future phases will introduce new challenges, especially when my husband and I are back to work.

So I would love to hear from parents of infant twins plus an older kid - what do your evenings look like in terms of

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(Also I know Bassnectar is a creep.)

We have three week old twins that are still waking up every 2-3 hours overnight, and the sleep deprivation is really starting to get to us. We tried each taking a shift a couple of nights ago and getting a longer stretch of sleep was amazing, but I found it so hard to manage feeding, burping, and diaper changes for two babies during my shift. Oh, and pumping.

So I would love to hear how you do it! No detail is too small.

Twin A is primarily nursed, while twin B primarily takes bottles of fortified breast milk. The other night when it was my shift I tried to nurse A and bottle feed B, which may have been part of the problem. I’d be open to bottle feeding both (which is what my husband did d