artistpainterdev

I have a first date next next week at a fancy/trendy restaurant. I'm 5'6" (F). My date is 5'8". I'm curious: would guys rather see the girl dressed to the 9s, looking hot in heels (nothing crazy- like 2.5-3 in. heels), or do you prefer she is mindful of height and wear flats, even if it's not going to be as hot an outfit? Emphasis on the fact that where we're going, heels and dressing up sexy/classy is totally appropriate. Interested in how you'd genuinely feel and how it would make you most excited to see your date.

I'm fine either way, though I know what the cuter outfit is lol. But I feel like I’m always debating this when I go on dates so figured I’d just ask.

Ya’ll— if not just for you, then for all of us. I just got off a first call with a POT from SA who asked about my financial expectations. When I said x,xxx ppm before moving to allowance he said: most girls on the site have been quoting me 500, but sure if that’s your standard that’s okay.

Whatever and tbd about him lol. But here we have a guy who can afford it, is willing to pay it, but because of what girls are throwing out to him first my number is not perceived as the standard it should be.

I’m not judging anyone for taking lower when needing to. I get it. I’ve done it, unfortunately. But at the very least, please do not low ball yourself straight out the gate.

In my experience, if

I’ve been in the bowl for 9 months, and after a vanilla dating derail, a handful of M&Gs and tons of online chatting, have started in two semi consistent arrangements. I’m about 5 weeks in with them. Things are starting to get on a roll and I have two more hopeful upcoming M&Gs. I think finally sealing the deal with the other two has upped my confidence. Ideally I’d like to have meets 1-2 times a week, whether that’s with one consistent person (ideal) or a few that rotate (current path).

Anyway, with all the excitement I find myself less productive outside of sugaring. More urges to online shop, curate my closet, plan beauty appointments, etc. Some of it is maybe a dopamine ride coming down

I have a date / m&g tonight I’m excited about. We’ve done a lot of talking on the phone and I think there’s a really good connection. He’s only 10 yrs older, I’m 34 he’s 44. He seems to have the approach to this that I’ve been looking for: more relational, genuine connection, etc. He’s kind of a “spiritual” type. I don’t think he’s in a hurry to nail things down or jump straight to sex. Seems like his approach is for it to be natural and having whatever amount of platonic dates feel organic. I think there’s very good potential for a quality sd/sb relationship.

He’s had a successful arrangement before - after 9 months they transitioned to a long term relationship. Then went back to arrangem

so I wanted to run something by this group to see if anyone else has had experience with it:

After searching in the bowl for the past 6 months I’ve run into 3 POTS who are very similar.

They reach out via Reddit (probably having seen my profile review in the other group), offer a very nice ppm and/or allowance, and say they want a submissive sb (that parts find with me). As I talked to them further they want me to call them Daddy pretty much immediately, and then reveal that they have an ownership kink. Want to pick what I wear, have me call them Daddy in public, train me as their pet, leash and collar play etc. for further context they’ve all been Black (under 50 and attractive) and I’m

I’m brand new to this. Have been on seeking and SB for almost two months. Have had a lot of almosts, but nothing quite right. I just got back from a M&G with a POT. A nice guy. Would be predictable and take care of me well. Starting with ppm then moving into a generous allowance. Personality is fine. Maybe the chemistry will end up being there. But off the bat…I’m not attracted to him. He’s not repulsive or anything. Average. Older than I’m used to. I’d just..have to push myself a bit, at least the first time.

How have you all navigated this? Have you found attraction to grow? Is attraction even a requirement for you / has it ended up being very important in your SRs?

Any input is greatl

So I’m a new SB and I’m excited to start this, both for fun, relationship building and finances. However, I’m shy around receiving money (I know I need to get over that) and I think more understanding of SDs would help me. So if you’re an SD:

• what do you get most out of these relationships?

-Are these arrangements simply a convenient and reliable way to have intimacy? And since you have the means, why not set it up that way?

-Or is there a strong desire/turn on to give and spoil? Is this an important part of it for you? If so, I’d love to hear more about this turn on and maybe the psychology of it

I want to be able to lean into receiving in a way that feels good for my SD.

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I have a decently successful art account (72k followers) but I feel like the algorithm has not been doing shit for me lately. I had a suspicion that maybe they push out content from new accounts more (as incentive). Or maybe if people are seeing my work for the first time it’s more exciting/engaging so it was easier in the beginning? Idk.

I started a second account a couple days ago to test my theory- zero followers to start.

My first video has 32 views, second has 4.7k and one I posted 12 hours ago has ONE view.

How is this possible? I feel like that almost has to be a glitch. Is there a reason for this? HALP.

I’m curious what people identify as their “tells” for needing a higher dose of any antidepressant.

I’ve been on a psych med journey for the past couple years. Worked through several SSRIs. In addition to Wellbutrin (which I’ve stayed consistent on and am on the highest dose) I was on Zoloft for the longest and it worked the best. However, the emotional blunting and inability to cry was pretty bad.

My younger brother passed at 29 years old in Feb, which was devastating. So I felt like I needed to switch so I could emotionally process. I’m now on 25 mg Pristiq instead which is the lowest dose.

It’s fine and all. But my depression, though helped, feels much more present than when I was on

This is such a bummer bc I feel like Culture Hustle started out as a cool small business with good products. I have come to rely on Stick to embellish my prints. I placed an order for it in April. Had to send multiple emails before they actually shipped it to me. It arrived 3 months later (wayyyy beyond the timeline given on their website). And when I finally went to use it- it’s completely faulty. Might as well be a bottle of milk. Zero stick ability.

I emailed for a refund and haven’t received any response. Just save yourself the hassle. If they’re avoiding refunds my guess is they’re going downhill. Really sad and irresponsible, especially since they’re taking money from artists.

Anyway

I’m a fine artist (33f). I make my money selling paintings and prints, and teaching my own workshops from time to time. I love it with all my heart. I’ve been able to build a small business out of it and make headway with galleries, which I’m sure would continue to go in a positive direction. I’m pretty decent at it.

However- I take home 20-25k per year and work way overtime to do so. For a fine artist- it’s honestly not bad. For a human in California- it’s legit terrible. I live at home to be able to afford my art studio. And I reallllyyyyy need to not live at home anymore. And like- be able to pay for a broken down car or dentist appointment.

Could I one day make more money? Maybe. It’s