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TLDR: Every time my friend and I have a few drinks alone, she will suggest a threesome with me and my fiance, despite me telling her that he is not interested.

Hey all,

I’m still new to having healthy friendships and relationships as I spent majority of my life being the doormat friend from a very abusive family. So I’m looking for some advice about something that I noticed?

Me (25f) and Sam (27f) met at work and became friends pretty quickly. Hanging out outside of work, taking little girls trips out of town, etc. While we no longer work at the same place, we stayed in touch and we consider each other as best friends! She was there when I started dating my now fiance, and was happy we

I pay my bill as soon as I get the text that my service will be renewed. This is the text I receive:

“Freedom Mobile Update: Your service will be renewed on Fri. Nov. 26, 2021. Your current balance is $45.05. To top up…”

I’m confused. The balance just gets higher despite me paying the $15 that I should be every month.

Hey everyone, my apologies if I didn’t word the title right, but I was wondering if anyone else experiences “selective” fears of abandonment? For example, I am not worried about losing my friends but the thought of losing a love interest, or a significant other is enough to make me feel like I’m in the deep end. I do love my friends but it feels like it would be easier to accept their absence than it would be for someone I have feelings for. I wonder why this is.

A week after my birthday. I can’t believe it. I really can’t. I’m so alone.

I have to go back to school soon (dropped out last year due to, well, my mental illness) but I feel like I need some direction, and rather than fantasizing about working min. wage, saving up and travelling, I want to pursue something more stable. Stability is, I realized, important for me. I've always been good at problem solving (especially when the problem didn't involve me), I am empathetic, I'm a great listener because I hate talking about myself, and I truly just want to be useful. Have a meaningful purpose. I've been thinking about becoming an addiction/mental health worker, give back to the community in a fulfulling manner which just makes me feel good. But the thing is, sometimes I m

I need you people who have had surgeries to be real with me. I’m 21 now, pretty much at stage 3. Yes, I’m very scared of the idea of having my body cut open, conscious or unconscious. I’m scared of the pain. But I’m in a lot more pain now and emotionally tired of the odour. Do the flare ups come back, even if you tried to cut out your “trigger foods”? How has your surgery affected you physically and emotionally? Do you find that your quality of life improved? Healing time? Can you lift your arms? Pain? I’m sorry I have so many questions but I am very anxious. My doctor encourages surgery but he’s only a doctor. I want to know what I’ll experience when I leave the hospital.

Okay, so I’ve been thinking about surgery. I am a smoker but I’ve had HS since I was 13 (21 now) I only started smoking at 17. I honestly cannot remember if my HS got worse due to smoking but I’m wondering, and I know we should quit smoking, if I get surgery, is the smoking 100% going to bring my flare ups back? Is it possible that tobacco doesn’t contribute at all? I’m scared that if I ever touch a cigarette again after surgery, I’ll have gone through it for nothing. I need some advice based on experience please.

I would love to find some support in trying to cope with a family member who’s been convicted of a terrible thing. Any resources and advice is appreciated. I’m feeling a pain and loss even though this person hasn’t died.