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I am absolutely down bad for someone right now and am feeling very yearny and would like to read some books that are very yearn heavy, hopeless romantic feeling, like gonna hit me where it hurts.

I was just venting in a discord server about how my mom was annoying me, and someone said move out. This friend always jumps to move out, and I have to remind him that I am super broke. I don’t have to pay rent while still living at home, and I can still barely afford things. And other than my mom doing a few annoying things, I don’t hate living with her, I was just mildly annoyed by her saying something.

Where the judgement comes in is I am in a relationship. My boyfriend and I are Christian, and I know how so many people feel about Christians so I honestly try not to talk about it much especially in that server because it sparks so much vitriol, because plenty of them (understandably) ha

And today I weight myself for the first time since that decision, and weighed in lower than my last weigh in. I was prepared to be a few pounds heavier, not really due to anything other than water weight from how much sodium I thought I was consuming. Yet I was 0.4 lbs lighter than my last weigh in.

I was always worried that I would struggle with the lifestyle changed, but I think I subconsciously kept my CICO habits up that whole “break”. Excited for what the year will bring!

I’m going to talk to him about it later but I just wanted to just say something to someone about it and my friends would just tell me to tell him when I will!! But he just tends to rub me like a dog rather than just resting his hand somewhere or doing slow strokes and idk how to bring it up to him. He also takes literally no cues to stop. I will shift and move around and try to show him I’m uncomfortable and all he does is switch areas or move his hand with me. I have to tell him to stop. I just don’t know why he thinks the speed at which he’s rubbing me is comfortable. I’m also black and have natural hair, that I wear in two buns. He’ll literally just grab one and move it around like a joys

He is everything I could ever ask for and more. He is incredibly patient and slow to anger. He’s gentle with me, and he lets me cry. He doesn’t try to get me to stop, or pull away. He supports me and comes to my aid without a second thought. He apologizes when he doesn’t even need to. He reassures me every single day. He looks at my imperfections and still thinks I’m the most beautiful woman. He tells me that. Daily. He always wants to do what I want to do, even when I tell him that we can do whatever he wants to do. He knows what I like and is always trying to get or give me that.

On the other hand, I’m always scared. I don’t tell him how I feel, how I really feel, because I’m scared. I

I’m on day 3 and holy crap it’s kinda scaring me. I think it may force me to be more mindful about what I eat and try to be more healthy, because my day is over and I have only consumed maybe 1000 calories. I’m only slightly hungry right now. I honestly bought them on impulse just to see what they were like. Definitely not something I planned on doing for a prolonged period of time.

Do any of you guys have any experience with this or any thoughts or things I should know?

I’m a relatively new Christian. I have not yet read the Bible in its entirety, and I have not read Revelation for myself. I have read snippets of Revelation with my boyfriend and at church when it comes up. This is all just to say that I don’t fully know what happens.

That being said, I keep having dreams about it. It’s not necessarily a negative thing. In the dream I had last night I was crying tears of joy and praising Yahweh and Jesus and I was so glad. But then I realized there are people in my life that aren’t going to be going. I remember telling my parents and my brothers that it’s not too late. They didn’t want to, and it hurt me, but ultimately I think I felt content?

I don’t kn

I’ve long dealt with the issue of any time I’m in a relationship with someone who is not black, being told I’m a race traitor. I think one time a black woman alluded to me having a slave mentality because I was with a white man.

Then I see some comments or discussions here about people “dating out” compared to people being “race loyal”, which makes it seem like it’s a bad thing to date outside of your race as a black person.

So far as that one thread saying successful black men marrying a non-black woman, is helping another community out rather than their own community.

All of this just seems racist to me, because I don’t understand why someone else’s choice of partner is so important.

Hiya all,

I kinda have a question about tithing. It’s something that I would like to start doing, but I am just unsure of really the how. It seems like tithes should mostly go to your church, but I’m currently going to a church that I don’t feel that much connected to, and in addition to that, they have so much money. Like, multimillion dollars. I looked it up and it seems that the consensus is that most of what I decide to set aside for tithes should go to my church, but I just feel like that’s a bit off? Considering the church I currently go to. I’d love to give to a Christian charity or a missionary group.

I guess I’m moreso asking, is that acceptable to God? Or does the Bible ins

Every time we have family coming in for something or the other, I find out last minute and can’t request time off from work. So I have to work while my whole family goes out and has fun. It happens every time and every time I end up crying because of something. A new restaurant opened up literally in our city months ago that we’ve all been wanting to try. And they went while I was at work.

So now, every time my family mentions a place they wanna go, I’m not waiting for them anymore. I’m going by myself. I don’t care if it’s 2 hours away. I’m always left out and left to sit around and do nothing. So I’ll do it by myself.

I don’t really know how to go forward in my relationship because I can already tell we are going to have vastly different beliefs, despite us both being Christians. He was raised Christian, and I’ve found my way recently by myself. We have differing beliefs and I don’t even know how to really navigate it. Do any of you guys have experience with this or any advice?