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TLDR: Amazing guy, loads in common and seemingly mutual attraction at first. First date went great but texts slowed down a lot and the two further dates weren't romantic. He was honest and told me he's not sure if he feels much outside of having a great time together and that maybe we'll see each other again at an event we both happen to be going to in a couple months. He said we should be perfect on paper and maybe he needs to do some work on himself because I'd done nothing wrong. He assured me he hadn't opened a dating app or spoken to anyone else since we met.

**He's pretty fresh out of a long-termer and I've been single for 2+ years. He currently has a very busy lifestyle. He updat

I'm looking for some content creators that focus on self confidence, success in relationships, and the general psychology of being a gay man. I have a couple I currently watch/listen to but they are mainly focused towards women (Matthew Hussey, Margarita Nazarenko) and in general the hetero dynamic.

Does anyone know of any podcasts, or youtubers, who focus on gay men in this subject?

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whilst i’ve read about the limit of 160cm overall size and that smaller suitcases are much easier to manage when travelling around japan, i’m wondering which of the two suitcases i own i should take with me.

(i’m going for 30 full days)

the large one is 77 x 46.5 x 29cm (152.5cm total)

the medium one is 67 x 41 x 25cm (133cm total)

they are both lightweight soft shell cases and weigh around 2-3kg

of course i’d rather take the larger one for the ability to pack more and buy more out there, but would my life be much easier with the smaller one? it’s not the biggest difference, and i know the medium one won’t fit in the medium coin lockers at stations so i’m not sure how much benefit there

Hey everyone, I'm going solo to Japan at the end of this month and I am so incredibly excited!

I'm going for 30 full days excluding travel to/from the country, and I have most of my itinerary set but now I'm having last-minute second thoughts about the balance of days between Kyoto/Osaka.

For reference, I'm spending 6 full days in Tokyo (excluding a day trip to Kamakura & Yokohama)

See my full day-split itinerary (brief plan)

I've currently planned for 5 full days in Kyoto, 1 day travelling from Kyoto to Nara for a day trip and then onto Osaka in the evening, and then 2 full days in Osaka.

From th

Hey!

Finalising my solo trip to Japan in February next year and wanted some opinions or recommendations on my itinerary. I've tried to space it out so that I can have a bit more time in each place to explore and experience the culture rather than rushing around.

Here it is:

Hi all,

Very excited for my trip to Japan in February!

I’ve got a choice to make that I’d appreciate some advice for:

On Day 9, I’m travelling from Shinjuku to Fujigoko (Fujiku/Lake Kawaguchiko Area), staying there overnight into Day 10

Now on Day 11, I’ll be travelling to Nagoya, dropping off luggage at the accommodation, then to Ise Shima and back to Nagoya.

My initial idea was to travel back to Tokyo on Day 10, stay there overnight so that I can get up early and go straight to Nagoya in the morning of Day 11

However now I’m thinking, would it be worth it to stay a second night in Fujigoko, and extend my travels on Day 11? (Fujigoko to Tokyo to Nagoya, Ise Shima, Nagoya)

I’m staying

Hey all

I'm fairly new to espresso-making and have just come across something I can't find an answer to very easily.

I just tried to recreate this recipe I liked best from the previous batch of my favourite coffee:

Coffee: 14.8g

Grind setting: 1.4.4 (1ZPresso J-Max)

Brew time: 47s

Yield: 37.5g

Ratio: 1:2.53

This might sound like a strange recipe with a pretty long brewing time, but it tasted great.

This time I used the same amount of coffee and grind setting, aimed for a similar yield and got these results:

Brew time: 26s

Yield: 37.9g

Ratio: 1:2.56

I mean it came absolutely pissing out of the portafilter this time, which was a surprise. Channeling and all.

Why w

Hey guys

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About a month ago my friend (in passing) told me he thinks he may have adhd. This got me curious as to what is actually is, so I had a look online, and I was literally gobsmacked at how deeply I related to almost everything I was seeing. Since NHS and other "web doctor" websites mainly just showed the DSM 5 symptoms I thought I'd come to reddit and see what real people's experiences have been like. I've found myself relating so much to so many posts and writing down all of the things I do that could be a sign of ADHD. The notes page got very very long, and I've sort of become obsessed with it? I've done several online tests that all have similar questions

TL;DR - Boyfriend has no prospects or passions in life. Has had an awful upbringing unlike mine. I love him and he loves me to bits, but his inability to keep a job and his lazy, quitter mindset has me questioning our relationship. We live together and he has caused us financial problems several times. We've had a lot of great times, and he is very easy to get on with, but I often think about what could have been if I had met someone else. We either renew our tenancy in July, or if we go our separate ways he only has his dad's living room floor to sleep on. I have dreams of living and travelling, enjoying life. But I feel like that's becoming unreachable with him. He would never have got a j