I'm an autistic mom of two, an older daughter who is neurotypical and a younger son with ADHD. My husband has anxiety disorder (though I suspect ADHD in him). I don't relate with ADHD.
My son has been very distractible from birth, as soon as he could turn his head it was very hard to nurse him - he would whip his head around to see what was going on as soon as the milk let down. We struggled with keeping his weight up. It's still difficult to get him to stay focused enough to eat. His distractibility started to cause problems in 1st grade as he is disruptive to the class and can't get his work done. He is a bright, curious, and loving kid, learned reading and math before he started school.
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