r/BDSMpersonals

1.4M archived posts · Jul 2011 – Sep 2026

ISO kinksters?

r/BDSMpersonals

In search of a kinky partner? Try your luck here!

Created Jul 13, 2011 · NSFW

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In search of a kinky partner? Fetlife not working for you? Try your luck here!

#Our subreddit family

#Rules ##Rule #1: 18+ only

Anyone found to be under 18 will have their content removed and permanently banned from our subreddit family.
Content of underage people are not allowed in ANY context. (pictures, videos, drawings, stories, etc.)

##Rule #2: Proper post formatting

All titles must begin with "Numerical age [Flair] #Location" (#Online is okay too)
All posts must be properly flaired with a post-flair that matches the [Flair] in your typed title. If you don't know what flair is or how to use one, check out our flairing guide here.
All posts must include a minimum of 50 words of thoughtful description of yourself and what you're looking for.

##Rule #3: Be excellent to each other

No name calling or personal attacks
No homophobia, sexism, racism, bigotry of any kind.
No explicit or implied threats.
No doxxing/outing/name-dropping.
No shaming people for their kinks (or lack thereof).
No callout posts, naming and shaming people (Reddit users or otherwise).
Kinky role play is not the same as real life. Respect others here or you will be banned.

##Rule #4: No drama/baiting/trolling

No MGTOW, TRP, incel, etc. type of content.
No malicious baiting/trolling or purposefully inciting arguments.
No purposefully inflammatory posts.
No linking to posts or bringing up incidents from subreddits outside our subreddit family to complain about or brigade.

##Rule #5: No advertising

No spam/self promotion.
No linking to personal blogs, paid content, subscription sites, or other self-promotion
No advertising outside chat groups (kik, skype, discord, whatsapp, etc) More info on this and our stance on Discord here.
No personal contact information (kik, skype, email, phone, etc)
Financial exchange of any kind is strictly prohibited. This includes, but is not limited to, findom, pro-dommes, and sugar arrangements.

##Rule #6: Posting frequency is limited to once every 7 days.

Subsequent posts will be removed. Repeat offenders will be banned.
Deleting and reposting to spam the new-feed will result in a temporary ban.
Using multiple accounts in an attempt to get around this will result in all accounts being permanently banned.

##Rule #7: All standard reddit rules apply

##Rule #8: Mods will use their discretion

Mods will take things on a case by case basis and remove posts/comments and ban users at their discretion. We reserve the right to use our own judgment and ban anyone from the subreddit or entire subreddit family if we view you as being detrimental to the community, regardless of if you break any specifically stated rule.
When the mods say to do something, stop something, or let something go, do it.

#Kink list Consider filling this out as an easy way to present your likes and limits to any potential partners! ####Click here

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