r/bellusromantic

108 archived posts · Dec 2022 – Sep 2026

bellusromantic

r/bellusromantic

Bellusromantic is an underrated arospec label for people who enjoy or want romantic things or actions, but don't actually want a romantic relationship. Bellusros may tend to be romance-ambivalent due to having **valid boundaries** when it comes to romance in order to feel comfortable.

Created Dec 11, 2022

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Bellusromantic is an underrated arospec label for people who enjoy or want romantic things or actions, but don't actually want a romantic relationship. Bellusros may tend to be romance-ambivalent due to having valid boundaries when it comes to romance in order to feel comfortable.

###Rules:

1. Posts must be directly related to bellusromanticsm

Try r/aromantic for more general, vague, and non-specific discussions related to aromanticsm, or r/arospec_community for arospec stuff, r/quoiromantic if you Don’t Know, etc. The exception is posts about intersectionality. Discussions of one’s intersectionality are valid and welcomed.

2. Use the appropriate post flair

If you want to post about your experiences suffering with internalized bellusrophobia or internalized amatonormativity, please flair your posts with “Internalized Bellusrophobia” or “Internalized Amatonormativity”. If you aren’t able to do this, please post to r/aroventing instead.

Flairing your posts appropriately will help protect fellow community members who may be sensitive to bellusrophobia from internalizing it. <3

3. Keep an open mind

This is a very diverse community filled with people with differing experiences. Therefore, it’s very possible someone may have a differing experience than you. Try to be open minded to keep this community inclusive and healthy versus exclusive and toxic. Use the opportunity of coming across someone with a different experience to choose curiosity over judgement.

4. No gatekeeping

Gatekeeping is a combination of both invalidation and exclusionism. This is not what we want; it creates an environment of defeat and resentment.

5. No bellusrophobia

Do not bring down/put down/demonize/stereotype bellusros. Posts discussing aro discourse, or something along the lines of arospecphobia/bellusrophobia in the aro community, as well as discussions/content of how bellusros and romo-ambivalent arospecs are often excluded from the aro community or left out of aro discussions, are allowed. Just try to put TWs and CWs for discussions of bellusrophobia, since it should not be normalized.

6. No dehumanization, slurs, hateful, demonizing, or offensive language

Everyone is worthy of being treated like a human. No ableism, aphobia, transphobia, racism, arophobia, sexism, misogyny, misogynoir, acephobia, arospecphobia, acespecphobia, or other form(s) of discrimination.

It is also not ok to say racial slurs, queer slurs, sanist slurs, ableist slurs or other dehumanizing things like “monster” or “evil” (without consent for voidpunk people).

7. Mark all content appropriately

Mark triggering posts as “NSFW” or “Spoiler” when appropriate. Use >!spoil/hide!< text to hide sensitive or triggering parts of content. To format a spoiler in text, do > !this! < but without the spaces between the arrows and exclamation points. Put TWs and/or CWs when necessary, especially when sharing details/describing traumatic or triggering experiences.

Being mindful of how you mark sensitive content will help allow the people reading your content to prepare themselves.

8. No content of off-limits behavior; reach out for help if you need it

Off-limits behavior are things that could hurt yourself or others. This includes self harm, suicidal thoughts, and/or threatening or harming yourself or others. If you are struggling, please find help at r/mentalillness, r/ptsd, r/suicidewatch, and related subs. There is help for you available.

9. Advertising Policy

If you are promoting something or formally gathering information about bellusromantic people’s lived experiences for something, use the black “Promotion” or the dark orange “Formal Survey / Research” post flair. Your post will be automatically be filtered so the mod team can manually review your post.

All promotions are expected to follow the rest of the community rules, including being directly relevant to bellusromanticsm.

10. Respect Headcanons

If you disagree with someone’s headcanon, it is ok to respectfully discuss why you disagree with it. It is not ok to invalidate, make fun of, or otherwise offend / insult someone or their headcanon for any reason, "joking" or not.

Focusing on curiosity and education versus judgement can help keep this community healthy. Sharing your different perspective is an opportunity for connection, as well as a way to help the other person understand your perspective better.