r/InSickness

37 archived posts · May 2018 – Apr 2021

For partners of the chronically ill

r/InSickness

Judgement free zone for the spouses/partners of those with chronic illness to go for resources and support. This is NOT primarily a place to go for information or resources on how to be a better support for our ill partners. Let's face it all you have to do is Google "partners of those with chronic illness" for a plethora of that kind of information. This is for US - a place we can go to make sure WE'RE getting what we need to be fulfilled, supported and understood.

Created May 14, 2018 · restricted

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On our wedding day when we vow to love our partner "in sickness and in health" we mean it unequivocally but do we ever REALLY expect to have to fulfill that vow? When you're both healthy on your wedding day it's difficult to imagine anything other than a bright, healthy, carefree future. If you're anything like me, when you do (probably fleetingly) think of the "in sickness" part you probably envision patiently and valiantly tending to your partner on their sickbed, brow furrowed in worry, fueled by your overwhelming love for one another. I'd venture to guess that very few of us would have ever conceived of a scenario where we'd actually be RESENTFUL of our partner for being sick ALL. THE. TIME...GOD FORBID, WHAT KIND OF MONSTER COULD BE SO HEARTLESS?!?!? But alas, here we are. We love our partners and whether you've legally & officially vowed to stick by them in sickness or, like me, made it a personal vow to your partner without the trip down the aisle, we're all committed to the role that we've found ourselves in and when all is said and done, we just want them to be well and want to do whatever we can to care for them and make their lives easier. But we can't forget to care for ourselves too and part of that means being gentle with ourselves when we feel frustrated, resentful and impatient. This is a place we can come to to be reminded of that.

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