r/ndrelationships

40 archived posts · Jan 2019 – May 2023

Neurodivergent Relationship Discussion

r/ndrelationships

This subreddit is a place to discuss and seek advice for the unique challenges and rewards in interpersonal relationships involving at least one mentally ill, mentally disabled, traumatized, or otherwise neurodivergent person.

Created Jan 7, 2019 · restricted

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Welcome to the Neurodivergent Relationships Subreddit!

Discussion of any type of interpersonal relationship involving at least one neurodivergent person is allowed here. These include but are not limited to platonic, romantic, sexual, business, and familial relationships.

"Neurodivergent" is used here as an umbrella term for any mental functioning which diverges from what is clinically expected. This can include mental illness, mental disability, psychological trauma, phobias, eating disorders, psychosis, insomnia, compulsive behavior, addiction, or any mental health issues which hasn't yet been defined. We are not using the term "neurodivergent" to downplay the negative effects of mental illness and disability.

Basic reddiquette rules apply. In addition, here are some guidelines specific to the nature of this subreddit.

You may:

discuss potentially triggering topics, so long as appropriate post flair is used.
discuss NSFW topics, so long as appropriate post flair is used.
discuss safe and responsible use of controlled substances.
suggest that a user leave a relationship if you judge it to be toxic (unless they specifically ask not to give that type of advice in their post).
suggest that a user or someone in their life seek professional help.
post on-topic memes.
message moderators for approval to post advertisements.

You may not:

seek diagnosis or attempt to diagnose other users. This includes "do you think my boyfriend is a narcissist/sociopath" type posts (which also usually demonize conditions). Recommending that a person research a condition/spectrum is allowed.
spread false information, including antivaxxing propaganda or "cures" for genetic disabilities.
gaslight another user or try to make them question reality, even jokingly. This can trigger psychotic and dissociative episodes in people prone to them.
describe any neurodivergent person as a burden to you by nature of their neurodivergence. If something specific about their relationship with you stresses you out, feel free to post about it, but don't talk about them as if they're useless or inferior. This type of talk is psychologically damaging to neurodivergent readers.
recommend forced drugging or forced institutionalization. Institutions and medical professionals aren't guaranteed to treat neurodivergent people in a safe or dignified way in those situations, especially if a patient's mental condition is heavily stigmatized. These experiences are frequently traumatizing, and you can't know how a stranger would respond to them based off of a reddit post. The OP may also live in an area which handles neurodivergent people's civil rights differently than yours does.
trivialize mental conditions (examples: "it bothers me when my room isn't clean, I'm sooo ocd haha!", "just go outside and exercise and you'll be fine, you don't need medication")
stigmatize or demonize any mental condition, including personality disorders and psychosis. No mental condition forces everyone who experiences it to abuse others, and spreading the idea that they do hurts members of our community.
victim blame.

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