Did you ever watch porn with your husband?
My husband (35M) and I (33F) have been together for 12 years now. We still love each other a lot but life drained us. Between work, bills, stress and raising three kids, intimacy slowly became something that only happened once in a while. Not cause I stopped loving him, I just stopped feeling in the mood most of the time.
He never pressured me about it, which made me feel even guiltier sometimes cause I knew he missed that connection with me. I missed it but mentally I just couldn’t switch into that headspace anymore. Most nights I’d rather sleep than even think about sex. A few nights ago we were laying in bed talking and somehow the topic of porn came up. Usually I hate it cause most of it feels fake, loud and way too aggressive for me. But he mentioned Bellesa+ cause he heard it was more sensual and slower paced. We ended up putting one on mostly out of curiosity and … it didn’t feel awkward the way I expected.
We were laughing at first, making comments but eventually I relaxed into it. It weirdly felt more intimate than just jumping straight into sex. We spent time touching, kissing, talking and by the end of the night I felt closer to him than I had in months. Now I’m the one thinking about bringing it up again. I just don’t know if it was a one time thing or if we accidentally found something that helps us reconnect.
Posted Jun 1, 2026, 2:39 PM UTC