Elopement Reception Guest List

Hi! We eloped one month ago and are now planning a little, casual get together with our close friends and family. Thinking 35-40 people. But now, I’m stuck on not inviting two friends who have not congratulated me after I sent the elopement announcement.

I want this to be a small, intimate celebration of people who really support us, and with that, I don’t want to invite people who haven’t reached out or are not true friends.

Girl #1 is a gf of my husband’s friend. We’re in one friend group. The guys were friends first, and thus all gfs became friends, and everyone hangs out together. We’ve been in each other’s weddings, baby showers, helped move, etc. Everyone from this group has congratulated us except for one girl. Even when all of us hung out, she mostly avoided talking to my husband and I and instead talked to the other people in the group. I’m now contemplating inviting her (and her bf), since we haven’t heard from them.

Girl #2 is the wife of my husband’s coworker. We’ve also hung out together and double-dated, attended their wedding, baby shower, etc. Yet she reached out to my husband privately to congratulate him, not me or both of us. Also for context, when we attended her wedding, she put me down as “+1” instead of my name even though she’s met me several times.

I feel like both girls have broken girl code and if this is an intimate get together, I don’t want to ruin it with people who don’t truly support us. But I also don’t want to be seen as the bad guy once this all is over.

Do you see my point and where I’m coming from?