9 months with British guy

Hey everyone, i want to hear you thoughts, opinions and advice regarding my relationship with an afam.

We met on bumble and we are already on 9 months going to 10 this September 2026. He has blue eyes, british, and is working in the US as a bio scientist director in a cancer center.

He came to visit and surprised me to my house without telling me he will go here during our 4th monthsary. So i was really happy about it. He is my first boyfriend and im 23 , he is 34. When we got official, he bought me flowers and chocolates and used to give me allowance during our monthsaries. But it all came to an end after his visit here when were 5 months together.

He became cold and told me hes just so busy with work. So , I understand. He dont update me and he dont tell me his plans. I mean, I dont need constant updates but just a little reminder. He stopped sending me flowers and gifts because as for him, im not doing good at communicating to him though i constantly send him updates and photos.

During his birthday, i surprised him woth a little cupcake and sang him a happy birthday together with my sisters. He was on duty and I asked him if he has plans going out woth colleague he said he dont know. However, he ended up celebrating and went out for dinner and came home 3 am his time. Im happy he get to celebrate it but im not happy that he didn't told me they went out, so to me , I am less important that hes ok without telling me. We argued and I blocked him for a while.

Hes smart but lacks emotional intelligence. I love him but i dont feel his love anymore. Oh btw, one time, he helped me with my 18,000 pesos tuition fee. And it was during our 3 months together.

So, no more surprises from him after he visit me, no more gift despite knowing that what makes me happy. Everytime we argue, he do not acknowledge what I feel. He has trust issues from his past relationships too. One time, when I was badly needing of help for my enrollment, I begged him like literal beg if I can borrow money from him for 2k pesos but he declined. So i was really heartbroken about that thingking hes the only person I can run to during difficult times.

Past forward, we didn't get to talk about my birthday but I was giving him hints and being 8 months together, I thought he remember but he forgot it. So i was disappointed and told him About it but he blamed me instead that i didnt know him. So to me, okay maybe , its my problem. I forgave him because he is sorry and told me he felt bad about it. So, i waited what he will do after we fixed the issue. But didnt do anything instead. Haha.

So moving forward, until he is still cold. Im always the one making sire we get to communicate but everytime i ask him he just gave me cold responds. And I always told him what i will do. For instance, i will do laundry instead or study if he replies late. But he blocked me for not talking to him especially friday nights and weekends. Im not aware he blocked me for no reason . What i was not ok is, i send him photos, funny videos and photos of myself without knowing he will not see it because he blocked me. This happend multiple times already. And then when he wakes up thats the time he will unblock me.

Like bro are u ok? Thats it heheheh