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NeverRelapseAgain

How i can manage anger while i am on SR

Since i start this journey my life is so much better in every aspect, clearer mind, more carisma, social anxiety is gone, more strength, i am a very attractive person but while i am on SR everyone is looking at me, many girls smile to me, it fells like i am a superstar, but i am still humble and i don't want to be superior to other people, my main problem is anger, i do a lot of phisical activities, running, lifting weights, boxing, maybe i should approach God and ask him guidance and help. One thing is certain i will not go back to my old self, that weak version of myself that was afraid even looking in people eyes, i will not let my children to watch porn or masturbating. What i should do with this anger? I know my english is bad, its my third language, i am still learning.

Posted Feb 10, 2023, 9:13 AM UTC

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Alarming-Sherbet5142•

I'm currently on 2 years retention.

Yes, semen retention can spike anger levels.

Personally, I've encountered similar problems in my genesis stages of retention.

Retention is a multiplier. Sr didn't create the anger, but only multiplied it.

At first, I attempted to manage the anger by intentional supplementation (using it as workout fuel).

Despite the workout success , my anger still was seeping out in other areas.

Afterwards, I made a big decision:

I was no longer going to manage the anger, but instead sought to eliminate it.

We all have our reasons for retaining. Some seek confidence because of fractured identities.

Some seek power, because society's puppets made us feel powerless.

Some of us want to take back the energy that was stolen from us.

On retention, the emotionalizing of purpose will push one forward. However, that emotionalization, if founded on anger, will only hurt us in the long run.

Brothers, dig deep and unveil the face behind your anger.

And when you find it, let it go.

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C_Spectre•

Brother, your words are golden. Continue to inspire and motivate. Godspeed soldier.

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AO_I_V•

Thank you for this brother 💯🙏

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FlameOfYang•

I'm angry throughout the day. I like how it feels. Why would I want to feel happy? I am not happy with where I am, are you? You are angry at yourself because you know you can do better.

Is it anger or is it fire? You have to use it bro

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hockeygrappler•

"Box Breathing" helps me immensely - deep inhale through the nose for 5 seconds, hold for 5 seconds, exhale out the mouth for 5 seconds, hold off inhaling again for 5 seconds, repeat. Do that for 5 minutes and you'll feel a good mental and energetic "reset".

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Responsible-Click-40•

You have to figure out your triggers for anger …… congratulations though you are aware of your anger & have already started practicing to avoid anger.

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seekingessence•

This. Plus meditate and pray. This was and still is one of my bigger issues. But ive made great strides recently, thanks in large part to the encouragement from this sub.

Everything you said about the whole superstar thing and increased female attraction resonates with me too. Bro im on vacation rn and i literally have to wear shades at night cuz sometimes the attention is TOO MUCH. From girls, dudes, kids, even some animals bro no lie lol. Its wild. Anyway. Stay calm. Be patient. Allow yourself to feel anger. Dont judge it. Dont try and squash it. Just observe. In time, it will dissipate. And pray. With your heart. Ask the maker inside for help. It will come. I promise. Stay UP KING. Rise above.

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Responsible-Click-40•

Mediation helps, it’s just finding the time & staying consistent…. My biggest trigger was just not getting enough alone time or spending my alone time on my phone.

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HEKRomeo•

Hooray. How it feel to be that lit

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seekingessence•

I mean it feels amazing on one level when I compare it to my old coomer, insecure, unattractive (how I perceived myself) self. I could feel my own awkwardness, and everyone could sniff it a mile away. On another level, it is like I have been given abilities that I am still learning how to wield. I am finding that humility really is the antidote to feeling too full of this newfound self. I will not consider myself higher than anyone else, unless you treat me like dirt or something. Thankfully this hasn't been an issue. I feel more respected, and in turn I give equal or more. I havent even hit "streaks" like a lot of people on this sub have, not even close. Currently on my longest one though. Honestly I am just excited for what's to come, what I am becoming, what purpose(s) I have yet to fulfill. It really is an adventure, but to answer your question bluntly: who wouldn't want to feel like a movie star, at least for a period of time in their life? It's kinda cool.

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hagosantaclaus•

Teach yourself spiritual practice. Any. What ever resonates with you. Meditation, prayer, taichi, reiki no matter

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C3KNGS•

It’s all a learning experience that takes time, the fact that you recognize it means you’re in the right path. Just be aware of you’re thoughts and how you react to people. If you make a mistake then reflect on it and use it as a learning experience rather then beat yourself up over it.

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thatsabuckingfummer•

Find something that you can do physically to use the anger you feel as fuel for that activity. Example being lifting weights, running, bouldering/indoor climbing. I just had a short streak that ended but i’m back on it staying away from social media that isn’t reddit and practicing brahmacharya.

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HippoAggravating9955•

Others mentioned a valid point: is it anger, or just dynamic and assertive energy interpreted as anger. Otherwise, anger, as other emotions, has a function and a purpose. One could say it is a survival reaction against a challenge which potentially exceeds one's resources. So there can be some unprocessed emotions behind the anger (grief, fear, shame etc.), or a lack of suitable (constructive) challenge to engage in. Of course there may be other reasons for anger on sr as well.

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wrecz•

Hey bro, I am very familiar with anger. I have spent much of my life attempting to control it. Anger is an opportunity to learn what triggers your emotions, and what can cause you to fall off of your path into a black hole. If we pay close attention when anger overwhelms us, we have an incredible opportunity in that moment to ask God to help us forgive whoever or whatever caused us that anger. 12 step recovery programs tell us to make a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves, but that is an enormous undertaking and inevitably we miss some things, so when a strong and uncontrollable emotion takes hold of us, that is a reminder of what we have missed in our inventory.

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Juiceshop•

In Psychotherapy it goes a lot into feeling yourself and looking at what you want and what consequences actions have.

This is clinically proven.

Sit down every day for at least 10min. Relax, come down. Just feel your body and emotions.

This leads you to knowing your self way better, feeling a physical or emotional overload earlier and therefore relax or self regulating your emotions. When you feel yourself better emotional regulation becomes an intuitive skill.

When you feel yourself better it is easier to know what you really need and want. Therefore you develop the tendency if avoiding bad influences and self sabotage.

Meditation and Pranayama are also proven to improve self regulation. The wikipedia article about meditation us good. But it takes some effort to become a regular meditator. But maybe there is no other general method to improve ALL of your mental abilities. It even raises your IQ and stops mental aging when you are old etc. .

It will be a damn good start and habit to just sit down, calm down and FEEL your body and emotions without commenting them. Just perceive what happens like when you are watching birds or clouds or a beautiful dawn. No matter if they feel uncomfortable. Learn to not push them away. This is the only wat to process them.

It has tremendous potential and is a safe method to change nearly everybodys life to a more balanced one.

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