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r/Advice•
Mentrin

Problems with Roommate

I guess I kind of want to get this off my chest. I’ve told my roommate over 24 times in the past 6 months to turn down his music at night. Doesn’t sound like much but each time I tell him, he’ll forget and play it again, waking me up at 2-4am. In the daytime, I don’t normally say anything, but I always get annoyed at hearing the same songs in the background. Earplugs and headphones (I plan to get noise cancelling ones soon) are commonplace for me as a result.

Today I got upset and decided if my roommate wasn’t going to user headphones then why should I? So I blasted my music at the same volume he does. Big mistake I suppose because I realize my roommate could in fact, turn up his music even louder with no signs of stopping.

Not sure if I burned this bridge in terms of negotiating. I just want him to get headphones but he always forgets. So, some advice would be appreciated. What should I do?

Posted Feb 14, 2023, 9:58 PM UTC

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oichoisters•

Or poop on their pillow

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FrauAmarylisAdvice Guru [72]•

I guess you're learning that we can't control other people.

Some people live by the Credo that it's better to ask for forgiveness than permission.

Actions speak louder than words.

Figure out a way to turn the tables so he can grow some empathy and feel what it's like to be on the receiving end of an inconsiderate roommate.

Get creative. Have friends help you.

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oichoisters•

Connect to their speaker and play something brutally shrill to blow it out. You can then blame it on the music always being so loud.

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Sarcastic_TrollPhenomenal Advice Giver [52]•

Can you get him some cheap headphones and tell him to use those until he gets his own?

Pretty sure you can still get headphones at the Dollar Tree. At least it's something.

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MentrinOP•

Oh, nice idea!

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MentrinOP•

Refused to use them smh

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