Fellas, I just realized I made my last payment today. Feels good, real good. I'm going to take extra nice care of myself for a while.
Good luck to all you men suffering and paying something you should not have to pay.
Abolish alimony! Solidarity brothers.
Posted Feb 18, 2023, 12:29 AM UTC
Oh man, I am so looking forward to this day. Congrats! Alimony is antiquated and completely unnecessary.
If your support obligations end when a child becomes an adult at age 18, why should you be obligated to support an adult who is able to support themselves after the relationship is ended?
Great question, but anyone who has dealt with family 'law' knows logic isn't their strong suit.
I know what you mean but the court logic is based on the 19th century logic which needs an update to 21st century reality.
I thought in the 1800s the man got it all? Either way I get it, yes, laws need a makeover.
Thank you, one day, hopefully soon for you...
I have an Excel spreadsheet with all my payment dates. Almost exactly a year from now, I’ll be done!
Yeah bud! High five! It will be sooner than you imagine.
Congratulations!
Love Bill Burr, first time seeing this, the grin on my face, I am that man today people!!
Congratulations. I hope she prepared herself for this day.
Thanks, ahhhh haaaaa oooooohhh boy, sorry, had to stop laughing. No, she is unemployed.
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Only 119 more payments for me! Jokes on her though, I won't live that long.
C'mon bud, If anything like me she would probably take your dead body over the cash. Keep going and don't give her that satisfaction. Hopefully joking.
she would probably take your dead body over the cash
LOL that actually cracked me up! Thanks bro, I needed that.
Better to laugh than cry and my ex absolutely has an end game which involves my funeral. Bitches be crazy.
Freebird!
Thanks, username checks out
Congratulations. It is a very good day!
Is your ex 'annoyed' that the free money flow has ended?
I sure imagine she is but we don't really talk. Like a controlled explosion I'll just sit at a distance and watch. Should be a good time!
i got lifetime but they said i could file to adjust after 7 more years of $1000 a month….
Ooof pulling for ya bud
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I’m very glad that I wasn’t forced to pay alimony… I did have to pay 65 percent of debt though and ex had run up the bills so high it was similar to an alimony payment for three years. Congrats on another milestone hit. You’re proof once again that the worst does pass.
Thank you, thank you. It really is a special kind of torture having to pay your hard earned money to someone you at best don't even care about.
Dodged alimony, but just over 7 years left of the child support clock.
I love my kids, but don’t love paying her for 50/50.
There will be an endzone dance and a tailgate BBQ once it is officially over.
Sounds nice I'm glad you were able to do that. I'm about to embark on lifetime alimony myself doing the math she's going to make more than me because I showed that I made a lot of money for financial statements and things like this for business purposes at the end of the day though I didn't make as much as paperwork shows.
Brother, we are here for you. It is an absolute bullshit situation. Very sorry, vent as needed. It sucks bad.
How was it figured out? Was it a lump sum you had to pay down?
Mediator/judge, oh I had a lump sum payment, monthly payment too, CS as well, got the works package as in I got worked over
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Congrats! Buy something nice for yourself!
Don’t have alimony but I’ve got 2yrs left to run in my child support and I’m so looking forward to that day. Not because I don’t love my children, but I will be able to support and help them directly without their mother siphoning off funds for her personal expenses. I know all the money I give is not used exclusively for them and it really burns me. I know I will get a phone call from her pleading to continue the process but I won’t. Without the CS she’s going to be pretty broke as she’s done nothing with her career for the last 20yrs and still earns pretty much the same amount as when I first met her.
Absolutely. Stick to your guns. Put that money aside for you and your kids for when the rainy days come. And come they will.
How long did you have to pay?
Five long years
Congratulations.
I feel so great that I never had to pay a dime in alimony. She was unemployed, refused to work. And the judge didn't buy it. 11 year marriage down the tubes and she thought because she passed the 10 year marker, that she was entitled to that alimony.
And my judge shot her down! It felt awesome.
Congrats on your last alimony payment.
Surprised you weren’t held in contempt for doing and endzone dance in the courtroom.
We had to go to trial because my exwife fought to the bitter end that she was entitled to 50% of my take home pay in alimony.
After trial, I had to wait for 60 long days until the judge made her ruling. And yes, when that decree came in? I was dancing the endzone dance.
My exwife? Took her 2 days to stop screaming.
This is exactly what I’ve been dealing with for 2.75 years. Not only does she want half in alimony she wants it for life for a 12 year marriage. Ridiculous. Trial is coming at end of summer. Can’t be resolved soon enough.
Alimony is fucking dumb. Just because you married someone doesn’t make you entitled to their pay. If I had to pay alimony for life I would leave the country.
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Pinal county AZ
Was hoping for similar here but got a garbage judge. High five, no alimony is even better!
Wow was the judge a man or women? Either way that’s amazing news for you and something that’s rare. Did you hire great divorce lawyers? I’ve been looking up lawyers in my city and one charges like $500 an hour but is considered one of the best in the state I live in. Basically she said since I earned $190k a year and my wife only made 70k a year she could get me more of the savings so it wouldn’t be split 50:50 since I made so much more than my wife.
Don't expect miracles. You are probably going to take a hit. I was the high (only) earner.
Good luck, we are all pulling for you. Make sure you get a good attorney and keep them in check. They don't care about your life, you do.
Congrats! What state are you in? I’m in California and we were married 17yrs.
Oregon. So sorry brother. I hope it ends somehow.
I was told a few years ago I may have gotten lifetime. No idea how would have handled that one.
Arizona