We were dating for three months when we finally decided to get intimate, little did I know she was packing heat. Really made me not trust women for years... big hands should have told me the truth...
Posted Jan 12, 2013, 6:39 AM UTC
I just needed to get this off my chest guys thanks!!
I'm all for trans anonymity and I think it's totally fair that a trans person doesn't tell immediately, but only seems fair that you tell your partner BEFORE you get intimate.
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Look at all the idiots in this thread defending this "girl". Nothing wrong with being trans but she started a relationship built on lies.
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Wow... You should have been informed. What a shock. D;
You should do an AMA
Bro s(he) 's got man hands....
I like how you still say your ex-GF
technically, if she identifies as a female, she is. if you'd like to learn more, r/transgender and r/asktransgender
either way, shes a total dick for not telling him about having a dick
It's a tough thing to navigate, telling 'late' obviously leads to this issue, while telling before you know you can trust someone can also lead to some pretty severe consequences.
yeah but there must have been some point in the 3 months when she knew he wasnt going to react violently.
Why? The only reason he was surprised was because of his expectation of vagina. If he didn't walk around with the faulty assumption that all girls have vaginas, he wouldn't have been shocked at all.
the assumption is irrelevant, the fact is he made it, and she clearly knew he had made that assumption because 99.99% of guys would, it's a pretty natural mistake to make, so to not correct that assumption during the 3 months they are dating was the dick move.
Agreed, it's not a minor surprise to throw at someone.
I agree. That should have been communicated before hand, and talked about.
Maybe she didn't want announce she was trans until she could trust him. Considering trans women are statistically at much higher risk of violence and murder it's no surprise many are reluctant to say it. Or perhaps she really liked him and was afraid to lose him.
Still doesn't change the fact that she waited 3 months. That's just too long.
I'm curious as to how she was able to get out being intimate for that long.