AIOR about an incident that happened to my daughter at school

My daughter just started middle school last week.

Yesterday a boy put pencil lead into her water bottle straw and she didn't notice. When she went to drink from it, another girl spoke up and said "don't drink that! "Peter" put something in it".

My daughter looked inside and saw the pencil lead in her water. Boys were laughing at her including the one that put it in there.

My daughter told the teacher and the teacher yelled at the kid and that was it. The boy asked if she was going to tell his parents and she said no its not that big of deal.

I was pissed because pencil lead and the soft tissue of someone's throat could have been an issue. A serious medical issue? probably not. But its contaminating someone's water?!

I wrote the school asking if they would check in on the incident, given its an actual crime to mess with someone's food or water at the very least there should be an incident report about it so the boys parents get notified. (I would want to be notified if my kid did something like that)

THIS IS WHERE MORE RAGE COMES IN

The counselor met with my daughter and wrote me an email. In this email she stated she met with my daughter and she let my daughter know that she didn't need to tell the teacher and could have just told the boy directly that she didn't like that, and to not do it again. She then goes on to explain to my daughter, that the boy PROBABLY HAD A CRUSH ON HER, and sometimes boys do that when they like her.

SHE THEN went on to say she told my daughter to make sure she doesn't leave her water unattended and to maybe put a cap on the straw. AS IF SHE SHOULD CARRY THAT SHIT AROUND AND ITS HER FAULT THIS FKER PUT SHIT IN HER WATER.

I'm so so soooooooooooooooooooooooooo pissed about this. I wrote her back saying that I felt like the school was stating contaminating someones food or water is not a big deal, blaming my daughter for not watching her water bottle 24/7 even when somewhere else IN THE CLASS ROOM, and then saying BOYS WILL BE BOYS because they LIKE HER.

What the actual F.

Am I overreacting?! My husband is a teacher in the district and says he also thinks it's weird how they are handling this but he's used to elementary school standards.

Looking for honest replies.