Am I crazy?????

Have been with my partner for 6 years now. I love her to death! One thing she does that triggers me beyond belief for many reasons is complaining when I ask her to do anything.

"Can you throw this away?" "Ughhhh (genuinely annoyed tone)" does it

"Can you do x for me" "Oh my god (same tone)" does it

I express to her why I don't like it when she complains about doing anything. She doesn't see an issue with it. She says, "Of course I don't want to throw your trash away. I don't WANT to go out of my way. But I do it anyway because we are in a relationship and I love you and I'd do anything for you."

And I just... The whole situation reminds me of my childhood but that's too much to put on here. She has always thought she is on the autism spectrum and I have definitely seen signs of her just being blatantly honest about not understanding certain things. Like okay, can you just pretend you don't mind doing something for me so I don't feel bad for asking you, my partner, for help? She says, "Why would I lie???"

Idk.