[Event] [🐦🐝Spring Fling 2025] Vanilla - Vanilla Chai And Writing Without Kinks

Wonderfully written by u/Coyote_Blues

Believe it or not, there's room for kinkless writing on DPP. At the core of all intimacy is the mechanics, the moments, and the momentum, and so this year's edition of the 2025 DPP Spring Fling Vanilla/Non-Kink discussion is going to be about paring the core of pairing down to the basics.

Think of it as the bedrock of bed rocking, the couching of cuddling before the storm, the 'can I...' of canoodling. It's foreplay without forethought or frills, a fantasy of frankness where you bring your naked self and know that it's welcome.

Coyote Blues here. I'll be your host this week, and while I've got my own share of kinks, they live in the dungeon and the attic more often than not, because the click and the connection are what do it for me first, and fantastic fantasy freaky stuff are frosting on the cake of later. It's less about the makeup than making stuff up.

So to open discussion, here are some openers as chat prompts:

• Consider meeting somewhere else besides a bar, someone else's wedding, or a picnic. The 'meet cute' and 'missed connections' and 'strangers passing in the night' can be held anywhere. What's an unusual locale to start with? (One of my past favorite prompts was one involving a ski lift operator.)

• How about crafting a new pickup line for this event? You can instantly get a feel for someone's personality in a single sentence much better with something they haven't ever heard before.

• As far as descriptions go - try letting your creative muse out and describe a protagonist without referring to sexual attributes, using numbers, or forcing feelings -- this is the male/female gaze trap, and I think we can do better -- to wit, what sets your character or your would be partner apart from the rest?

• Fourth and final - what's a platonic hobby you might share with a prospective partner as a way to get to know someone better without that sexual tension or connotation? To wit, can game still recognize game if the game is underwater basket weaving?

Vanilla/kinkless is a way to work more at craft a person and a personality to your writing rather than wielding well worn tropes and holding out hopes to do something different as a result.

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