Communion at funerals

I was at Mass this week and there was the funeral of an elderly, very much beloved lady who had been a devout Catholic. Normally on a weekday Mass we're about half full, if it's a bank holiday maybe three quarters. One this particular day the church was packed, we were filled probably beyond capacity. The mourners - family members and friends and neighbours, were not regular church goers. There were a few even from the Protestant community. (We're in Northern Ireland, this should tell you how well thought of us she was.)

There were a few things about the service, beautiful as it was, that didn't sit right. For a start, when the priest came in proceeding the coffin, the hired musicians sang a hymn so loudly that nobody could hear his entrance prayers for the deceased. The hymn was something in offensive, modern American lyrics, accompanied by harp and guitar. Nice singing, but it was a performance and overrode the priest entirely.

And then, most of the mourners had no clue about the order of the Mass. They were taking up the front half of the Church, so they couldn't follow along with the kneeling and standing, which made it more obvious they weren't regular attendees. I was personally very glad they were at Church, and hoped they'd get some benefit from it, but the problem came at Communion. The lady's widower was there, God bless him, in his wheelchair. He's very frail,and certainly hadn't expected to outlive her. He is devout, and the priest came up to give him communion, which was fine, but then he went up and down the front row giving communion including to at least three who actively seemed uncomfortable. He was starting on the second row when people got up and started forming a queue - including a group of protestants who seemed to decide amongst themselves on the spur of the moment that it was the thing to do. They were sitting in front of me and I could hear them whispering before they got up.

My question is, what should I do? I know the priest will say that the Eucharist is medicine for the sick, not a reward for the perfect, but he didn't explain Who is present in the Eucharist. He just said that the deceased lady was a good woman and Jesus keeps His promise to bring us home through the waters of baptism. I mean, he said it better than that, but I don't think any of the mourners other than her husband would have had a clue that I they were receiving the Body of Our Lord.

Please pray for this priest, he's a very gentle sweet soul, but he seems to let a lot of things slide.