How did you know your marriage was over?

Vent/Rant/FML

I haven’t been married long, I’ve been married for a year and a half. We got married fast. I think it’s heading to the end honestly.

I have put up with so much and I’m at a breaking point

I set boundaries while dating, that I personally don’t appreciate porn use in the marriage because yes, it makes me insecure and uncomfortable. He told me he wouldn’t. Well guess what, he lied about it for the whole year and told me this year he has an addiction to it. But I’ve stood by and supported him. He “works on it” through a 12 step program at church. I can’t get over the lies and betrayal trauma it’s left me

When we fight, he hits his head when he’s mad and has one time punched the wall in front of me.

There’s a multitude of things that have hurt me at this point , I’m exhausted.

I flew back to California and told him that he needs to work on himself and get a therapist or else this marriage is never gonna work and I’m staying in California unless I see real change. I’m sick of all words, no action.

He’s making plans to hang out with friends and stuff, and I can’t help but feel so disappointed (am I overreacting?) because I haven’t even heard his plans of what he’s going to do to fix our marriage. I’m so sick of fishing for information. If the roles were reversed, I’d be panicking and finding someone INSTANTLY, and taking this serious and I just feel like he isn’t. Idk I guess I just needed to rant. I’m so fed up and I keep thinking what I should do.